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1614937 - 11 Sep, 2023 - 07:24PM

I'm fascinated by this debate. On the one hand, people a worried about "being seen" if they meet locally. For me, the worry is about spending too much time away and raising suspicions at home!

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logicboy - 11 Sep, 2023 - 05:14PM

Given where I live and the lack of appropriate suitors I have been scanning a little further afield. For me, I'm 100% up for travelling the distance for an initial fairly platonic meet up (dinner or drinks) to see if there is a strong connection. And if there is then take it from there...

I think the distance from home takes away any anxiety in terms of discretion and presume that if there's a strong connection then a little planning and travelling is a price worth paying for a fulfilling affair.

Having said that the majority of feedback I'm getting is that I live too far away...

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1620254 - 11 Sep, 2023 - 02:01PM

Meeting half way could be interesting if half way was a public park.

laugar164 - 11 Sep, 2023 - 09:43AM

Paula99 I travel with work and normally stay over in hotels
I had a long affair with a fabulous lady from Bolton we chat most days and out meets we're electric
Shame it had to finish

Shoutout - 11 Sep, 2023 - 09:36AM

Living nearer does makes things easier, but I think we are also aware if the old adage 'Don't s**t on your own doorstep' especially when discretion is working to successful encounters...

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Enigma.. - 10 Sep, 2023 - 12:53PM

Suddenly I’ve got “The Proclaimers” song singing in my head… 😃😉

“Well I will walk 500 miles” etc…

Me! Travel 500 miles??

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bobloblaw10 - 09 Sep, 2023 - 11:15PM

Distance can be tricky, but as someone else has says being too close introduces different problems. I think it depends on the connection. I've travelled over 2 hours and it was 100% worth it for that person - but we already knew the connection was there, and we'd take it in turns.

Bobby224 - 09 Sep, 2023 - 08:39PM

Sandypops

I agree ideally the chance of an impromptu meeting is very exciting! I also like that regular chat, for me as I’m available every evening I like to chat every night and during the day of each day. I think it’s important. When you are in an affair I think in the same conversation you can talk a bit mundane and sexy in the conversation. I like to connect with my secret lover so chatting about everything with no boundaries so to speak is a must. Speaking for a week before a meet and then just a few random messages I between is not for me. But through experience idpf you are with rather right person and you click both near and far can work. Obviously if their is distance involved you have to have more patience and find other ways to be close between meets.

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Naughty in NW - 09 Sep, 2023 - 06:56PM

Many moons ago I had a long distance relationship. He drove for over four hours to see me and back to his home. Occasional overnighters when we could, but more often a bloody long day commute for him. It lasted about a year, then I called it a day due to the distance. I felt a bit guilty that he did all the travelling as he had more time availabile, but he insisted. It sort of troubled me. But f**k me, the meet ups were hotter than Satan's boxer shorts.

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Paula99 - 09 Sep, 2023 - 06:30PM

A few years ago I spent 2 half years travelling to see my IE.. ..at the time I had NEVER intended to do ‘distance ‘ meets but the guy I met .. whom I am still friends with now ..was a rare exception… I was in a different profession then and I had a lot more time to spend but J is a great guy ..he travelled because of his job…..he always made an effort to be within a decent driving distance and we had good laughs and great sex ..we texted on a daily basis and everything was always arranged in advance

THIS IS HOW YOU DO DISTANCE WITH AN iE..😉

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