Attachment?
How do you stop yourselves from falling for your ie? I’ve been here before and fell for him only to find out he had other women from the site and was on many other sites. It ended because I wanted an exclusive long term affair. Can any of you really say you don’t get attached to your ie after many months of being together? One night stands are not for me
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ChampagneStud - 08 Dec, 2023 - 09:45AM
Myself and my IE partner have fallen in lust with each other, rather wonderful, but always keeping an eye on being discreet. We are now exploring our kinks and we want an extra bi woman. I wonder of anyone is interested here?
Message me direct.
ExoticOrchid - 08 Dec, 2023 - 12:11AM
I have said it before and I'll say it again:
"More than Sex, Less than Love"
That's my motto.
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1447655 - 07 Dec, 2023 - 11:41PM
It totally depends on what you come here for and that is truly different for different people. We choose out poison! I love the feel of the fall as much as I love hot wild ravages of desire, and (for me) the one compliments the other. Doesn't mean for one second I'd compromise my family, but give me the divine fall and the fabulous sex, with it and a close, warm friendship. That's my ideal...
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1632457 - 07 Dec, 2023 - 11:34PM
Interesting perspectives reading the comments.
I'll throw this out there, you have to balance a degree of attachment / dis-attachment for it to really work?
Sex vs intimacy vs the L world - so take these IE's for what they are.
Food for thought.
1637242 - 07 Dec, 2023 - 11:31PM
I think with a long term exclusive affair, it’s kind of inevitable to feel like that.
I had one affair before and we only met three times and I started to develop some feelings. We are human in the end
LadyDe - 07 Dec, 2023 - 08:20PM
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Yep I totally agree and certainly for me I could never have sex with someone that I didn’t like, fancy, find attractive etc… and yes the chats, the cuddles, the laughs etc etc and being in our own bubble is great. As I also said I know I’ll cry, I know I’ll be sad, I know we can’t be emotionless, BUT I’m very practical and I know it will always come to an end. If I wanted to find love from someone else then I would be on a dating site maybe.
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marklondonengland - 07 Dec, 2023 - 07:44PM
@LadyDe - I guess it depends what people are looking for with an IE. If it is just sex then that isn't likely to be confusing, but I think most of us find that sex with someone we like is much more satisfying than with someone we are not bothered about. So even in an IE situation, it makes the sex more interesting if you connect, can talk, and like being together. The danger of course is that if you find you really do like the person then you might start thinking about a real relationship. What if this is how it could be?
I don't think it's just a male or female difference. I'm sure women find sex more enjoyable with a man they like, rather than just a random erection. The problem is that feelings developed for a friend with benefits might become stronger.
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Enjoylife22 - 07 Dec, 2023 - 06:59PM
When you start a relationship, it can take you on an adventure, sometimes feelings develop and sometimes they don’t, this often relates to the longevity of the affair. Without mutual fun, excitement and friendship it becomes pointless.
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