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Cheryl Kim - 25 Mar, 2025 - 06:21PM

AddedExtra - 25 Mar, 2025 - 03:35PM

A mutually agreed end. I understand the grief - these are the types of affairs that you can look back upon with the greatest fondness and the best memories. Hope you find the next perfect partnership for you, sounds like the last one will be hard to beat.

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AddedExtra - 25 Mar, 2025 - 03:35PM

Cheryl Kim. Absolutely nothing different. Was the perfect recipe. Just underestimated the grief of never seeing him again. We mutually agreed no future contact.

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Cheryl Kim - 25 Mar, 2025 - 05:41AM

AddedExtra - 24 Mar, 2025 - 10:25PM

What would you do differently with your next IE?

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AddedExtra - 24 Mar, 2025 - 10:25PM

I was lucky. I met my IE on here and we lasted almost 5 years. Was great fun with great depth and mutual respect. We ended recently due to his change in jobs. Was impossible to meet. We met twice weekly and spoke everyday with a hotel meet once every couple of months where we would spend the day together. I was very fortunate but won't do it again

J20hn1 - 12 Mar, 2025 - 05:52PM

My affair ended because my illicit partner wanted to dump her hubby and move me in instead. I wouldn't do it so she ended it. It was after all meant to be a secret affair.

KerryElizabeth - 12 Mar, 2025 - 07:31AM

I've been ghosted by guys after several months of knowing them. One, I have no idea why at all. Another, I wasn't as adventurous in the bedroom as he would have liked, for a guess. I was really hurt and it took a while to get over them.
However, the guy who has now become my best friend, I've been seeing for almost 2 years now, but it's more social than sexual.
I try to go with 'no regrets' with any guy I see, but am now more cautious about a physical relationship.

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tmn2024 - 08 Mar, 2025 - 07:50PM

GAV99 - not sure it has much to do with age. No matter your years, I've a feeling the general experience on this site (and others) is pretty rough. I've had zero results so far, and believe me I've been trying. Even if you find a profile that isn't fake and/or a scam (which in itself is difficult), there seems to be a general acceptance that we can treat each other with contempt and complete disrespect and rudeness. I keep getting ghosted...after what seems like a promising exchange a few times, bang, no reply, silence. If someone no longer wants to talk I wish they'd say so. But no, you just get left hanging. I find that very frustrating. And I imagine I'm not the only one experiencing this.

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GAV99 - 08 Mar, 2025 - 05:23PM

Only have had one real liaison.
That didn’t last .
Sadly disillusioned with this site .
Maybe it’s because I am over 70 now , who knows .
Doesn’t pay to be an older man on here .

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Paula99 - 08 Mar, 2025 - 01:36PM

tmn2024…

Sadly this often happens…in the cold light of day we look back in anger or sadness ….as your friend had discovered it’s easy to get carried away with the moment.
These things are there to test us …😇

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tmn2024 - 08 Mar, 2025 - 10:22AM

I've never had an affair so I couldn't offer any perspective on these questions.

I do know one person who had an affair however. It lasted all of three weeks, and she has vowed never again. She theorised that she felt "carried away" by this guy who is her husbands best friend. He is also married, but they had a spontaneous moment of passionate expression one night (you know - eyes suddenly met and locked, heart starts racing, instant realisation of a shared desire, etc etc etc). Without thinking she went with it and almost as suddenly, a few weeks later, she said she looked at him one day and just felt like throwing up......she no longer found him attractive and more than that, she found him completely repulsive.

I guess this is a fling rather than an affair. But from what I gather, she didn't know that at the time. Seemingly she was on for a longer term secret second life with him.

There are a full spectrum of affairs out there, I'd imagine. With luck I might have my own story to tell one of these d

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