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Cassie1963 - 07 Mar, 2025 - 11:10PM

Anyone here to talk about this?

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justtheguynextdoor - 07 Mar, 2025 - 09:50PM

I always try to be thankful that it happened not sad that it ended. I think these things just tend to have a lifespan and that is they seem to end. Everyone is a learning experience though ☺️

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Paula99 - 07 Mar, 2025 - 04:31PM

Rarity23….

Do you think she has been discovered ….it sounds like a classic ‘my husband as found out or I have decide to tell my husband’..?
It also could be …she is ill or a family member?
It could also mean she/ someone has passed away?

All major shocks !…. The above reasons put everything in perspective ….I often think about if anything serious happened… you couldn’t tell each other😞

It could also mean it’s over plain and simple and she needs to ‘take you out of the picture’ aka coping mechanism?

Tough times ….but we have to move on 🥰

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rarity23 - 07 Mar, 2025 - 01:47PM

I had an affair for 6 months, she decided she wanted to end it, and it was amicable, we even continued to text occasionally for months.

I've been having an affair for the last 2.5 years, however all of sudden contact ceased a week ago.
You wouldn't think you would be ghosted by someone you thought you knew that well, I may never know what the issue was.......... would I have done anything different, definitely not :)

I have to guess it's over, no doubt I'll be looking again at some point !!!

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smartypants12345 - 07 Mar, 2025 - 12:10PM

Aardvark

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Crispy - 07 Mar, 2025 - 10:54AM

Morning folks...

Reading this thread has made me think that there are some magical things that can happen, some of you having over decade long (2nd) relationships...
Some not though too, but that's no less amazing, and sometimes when it's time to move on it's time, appreciate the pain if you've considered this person special in your life....

Thank you for sharing the messages too, I find a rare free morning now in which to indulge in some reading.... so cheers

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PoundCakeRecipe - 07 Mar, 2025 - 10:40AM

Been in affairs that have lasted multiple years. Loved and have been loved, do not regret anything and care very little about the ill informed judgement of others. My path is my own.

I can tell you that it is a drug. It is addictive to develop intense feelings for someone and get on so well with them... not to mention the mind blowing wild sex each time you meet, especially when you lack that in your life.

However, the break ups are hard and lonely not having anyone to confide in. They must be done in a respectful and clean manner. I cant speak for others but i feel some women struggle with keeping things "an affair" despite initial agreements. The demands to go to a place beyond extra marital do start to creep in, i have been asked to start a new life by women more than once.

Its very hard initially during break up but time is the biggest healer and sticking to your principles this is the safest way to survive in this space.

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Amoris Laetitia - 13 Jan, 2025 - 11:10PM

I seem to always have very long term relationships, the last 9 years, 2 relationships both from this site. They become the one person that I miss the most and the void is palpable. Not just the physical part (but that is pretty much up there), but actually just having that connection with someone without all the daily struggles. The difficulty is obviously keep things in balance and moving through the relationship at the same tempo. That is the bit I struggle with! But, it is worth the effort when you find that special one!

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Clickable Connection - 12 Jan, 2025 - 12:05AM

Doubleohseven - 11 Jan, 2025 - 08:41PM
It's nice you've been able to stay friends - well done you guys 👍

jlo909 - 11 Jan, 2025 - 08:51PM
I think any affair that long , you'll develop deep feelings, hell it can happen sooner than that. Just one of the things we have to learn to navigate

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jlo909 - 11 Jan, 2025 - 08:51PM

Mine was like a marriage within a marriage….together for 11 years….really lived for each other and became too close. Ended because we decided it was the fairest thing for our families…..& neither of us was brace enough to give up what we had! Do differently…..just not fall so head over heels in love xx