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EmnEm123 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 12:51PM

I'm only looking for something "casual". What I perceive that to be is not casual hook ups with multiple men but meeting with one person now and again for some adult fun. I don't really want to be in touch with someone all day everyday but of course everyone is different.

What I'm more wary of are the guys who state on their profiles that they're looking for dinner, drinks, weekends away and then say Tuesday daytime is best for me? 🤔

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YourSecretLover - 12 Aug, 2024 - 12:40PM

I think it has to be casual, and if it clicks, it will end up a regular thing. There's no point in committing to a full blown discrete relationship on day 1.

1680841 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 10:29AM

Casual is quite an non-commital word and maybe that's the point.
What doesn't help is having to choose between that and 'see how it goes' which for some, could be the same thing.

I wouldn't see it as a red flag in either case. The member(s) concerned may not have decided what sort of relationship they're looking for or may be just as wary of how they are perceived.
As some have already noted; conversations you have with your IE will often dictate the type of relationship you end up with.

WhiteKnight_99 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 10:11AM

I don't believe you can really tell much from the use of the word 'casual' in a profile unless the meaning is explicitly described (rare). Casual sex no feelings, casual meetings and see where it goes, I'm only just saying casual because I am being cautious but what I really want is full on mind blowing passionately intense long term exclusive lover (for example 😁). So..that's a rather verbose way if saying the same as Unwoke!...best just to chat and find out.

1610442 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 10:04AM

"Casual"

can mean different things to different people. While you see it as something infrequent and purely physical, others might use it to describe a relationship without serious commitments, but still with regular contact or emotional connection. Some may label their intentions as "casual" to avoid pressure, even if they're open to something more meaningful. It's best to ask directly to clarify what they really mean.

Me well I might just want someone to use me for sex and to show them a good time . I get a real kick out of making other laugh keeping it casual takes pressure off x

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1661843 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 09:59AM

My take would be that, rather than presume their use of the term, ask them!
As the saying goes: to 'assume' makes an 'ass' out of 'u' and 'me'!

1664445 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 09:57AM

In my experience women put casual because they don't want to be seen as potentially clingy, or maybe can't commit to something frequent. When you chat, predominately they want a stable and safe affair, rather than a booty call.

Jumping from one person to the next adds risk to your sexual and mental health, a spurned hook-up that might turn nasty and a lot of added stress to what is already a risky thing to do in the first place.

Always exceptions though, no rights and wrongs and no hard and fast rules. Just be honest with what you are after and don't lie to hook someone

1687864 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 09:21AM

Not sure why this has popped up as ‘new’ today but I’ll add my two cents anyway ..

I think casual is open for interpretation just like the body types average/curvaceous etc? I don’t see it as a huge red flag I would always see how the person came across after reading profile and chatting.

I have casual/see how it goes selected - not because I’m after booty calls but because I have no current expectations from this site and if anything I think ‘long term’ has more red flags given some stories on here!!

I have lots of boring train commutes to chat freely, but as much as I travel around it’s not set where I am each week so I don’t have set days I can just put aside, nor do I have the luxury of being semi retired to have a random Thursday free every week 😂 so that could be seen as casual ..

There is always some who are just looking for a quick bang/photo collecting etc but equally I think it just depends on circumstances and scoping people out for yourself 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Onehairyone - 22 Oct, 2023 - 12:40AM

Dress casual. Or smart casual.
Everyone knows what it means

Bobby224 - 30 Sep, 2023 - 07:19PM

Eliza Boo

You got it! Life is full. Especially if both parties are married. I thought this site was for meaningful affairs where you do actually find a sort of soul mate, so if there is regular, maybe daily messaging or calls then when the meets happen it’s worth it? You are right the meets always have to be for hours, daytime or a night a way. I know my affair enhanced my life and made me very happy.

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