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1408586 - 01 Mar, 2023 - 03:55PM

I’d be exactly the same if I had more time EO. What you do sounds like lots of fun!

The ‘f’ part is definitely important isn’t it 😊

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ExoticOrchid - 01 Mar, 2023 - 12:39PM

Let me qualify the "wining/dining" part ... it is the social aspect ... my particular situation is that my IEs have the freedom to indulge in this aspect of our liaison ... oh and yes, mine are all FWB situations too and the "friends" part is just as important as the "benefits" part for us.

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1447655 - 01 Mar, 2023 - 12:09PM

I've never shared as much as a stick of gum or even a coffee outside of the room with my i.e. I'd rather nibble and devour him! Sure as hell not eating before, but treats after are definitely acceptable 😉. I would like to one day, but time and location is tricky, and it may never go beyond a bed picnic!

Redfirefox...snap! 😜

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1529050 - 01 Mar, 2023 - 12:06PM

Totally agreeing with most of the recent comments......

My first meeting I normally arrange a lunch time coffee or an afterwork drink - both easy to get out of if there is no connection. If there is a connection then yes I would arrange a longer meet (this is what happened this time), after the second meet we knew where it was heading and the rest they say is history.

We 100% prefer to spend our time together locked away in our bubble (and yes Becky with the picnic), we do normally try and have one drink on they way home but if it doesn't happen not the end of the world.

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1408586 - 01 Mar, 2023 - 11:30AM

I’m with you @redfirefox. I have a ‘FWB’ situation. Both of us are incredibly busy with our stage in life, but find the time for a few hours once a month. A meal in a restaurant would just be wasting that time imho when we can be doing something much more enjoyable 😂

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ExoticOrchid - 01 Mar, 2023 - 11:22AM

Redfirefox - 01 Mar, 2023 - 10:29AM

I'm single but very aware I'm on a married site so I don't expect all the romantic walking into the sunset holding hands, etc, etc BUT definitely the wining/dining bit ... even a married men/women can find the time to meet for a drink and a meal before [or after] the "main event" ... in fact some can even stay overnight ... all depends on individual circumstances as you say.

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Pedro_Bowman - 01 Mar, 2023 - 11:16AM

First one should be light touch I think. You're checking each other out, and whatever you've got through messaging can be quite different in 'real life'. Nobody should feel trapped or pressured in any way. I wouldn't necessarily even expect a kiss on the first meet. If there's an interest there is plenty of time for follow ups. Of course if there is an obvious mutual desire then as long as both parties are happy, go for it!


By default I'd say a drink, maybe a short walk or something of mutual interest as the opener. Maybe a small gig or something if there's crossover in tastes (not many people share my taste in music but it's lovely when they do 😊)

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Runner6969 - 01 Mar, 2023 - 10:40AM

A public place, daytime meet is ideal. I like to find a nice coffee shop, or similar. Somewhere you can chat freely without everyone else listening in. If it goes well, you can always go for a walk, browse a gallery or museum, carry on into lunch, or go somewhere more private and intimate if you can't keep your hands off each other!

I've done all of those in the past. You can go your separate ways after a coffee, or a relationship can blossom.

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1575239 - 01 Mar, 2023 - 10:32AM

A coffee shop is perfect no pressure on either side lunch time ,afternoon or early evening if you don t get on then you can wish one another all the best but if you do you can progress to lunch or dinner .As a man am always conscious that a lady must feel safe

Redfirefox - 01 Mar, 2023 - 10:29AM

Wow. So many romantics on here I feel like a complete hussy now.
If I was single, then I could read the last 10 previous comments and agree with you all. But I’m not. I don’t need a companion. My time is precious so I’m afraid all this wining and dining and strolls on the beach are all very nice during a normal dating process but far too time consuming for an affair. A drink , a chat, if there’s a spark and connection which I’m assuming you’ve got through messaging and then it’s showtime. But that’s just me currently in my specific circumstances. Each to their own and all that.

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