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1588157 - 01 Nov, 2023 - 11:48PM

Question....what is breadcrumbing?

Is it a technique used on great british bake off to achieve a good topping on your apple crumble?

P911 hansel & gretl

Life is a beach - 01 Nov, 2023 - 03:18PM

Most of us joined this site because there was something missing in our relationship, with the view of meeting someone we can connect with.
Initially I didn't know what to expect.
If you haven't yet met, do meet in a public place first. You may find there is no spark.
If there is a spark then you can consider meeting again.
Make sure you are both aware of not taking risks and that you are both considerate of each other

1587522 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 07:43PM

Alphamale8519 -31 Oct, 2023 - 04:51PM

It sounds like there's a huge element of tit-for-tat in your reasons for been here... I'm not sure that that feels like a planned and considered situation before embarking on something that could end your marriage...Its not a game after all is it, its a potentially life-changing situation for all involved...

Just my own view thats all.... hope it works out for you.

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1632156 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 04:51PM

I’m in a similar position where I found my wife and a friend had been having a virtual affair, probably before it becomes physical. It massively bothered me as it came from nowhere that I discovered it was going on. Now I’m at the point trust is gone, I need to find myself again and therefore looking for someone to have some fun with. Why is she getting to have all the fun!?

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1632151 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 04:17PM

If you're iffing and umming then really the first trip should be to the doctor. That way, you can get treated before you take the plunge. Plus, if you fancy the doctor, you've saved yourself all the bother of finding someone online.

1622807 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 02:06PM

@beckysharp you're right but also on another count. Undecided first timers are one of the worst groups to engage with.

Ghosting, breadcrumbing, evasive tactics (when trying to schedule meets) are all inherent to the incommited newby.

But we all have to start somewhere I guess.

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princeofpassion69 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 01:51PM

I’d start off slow, maybe it’s the excitement of someone new, the stolen kisses, the nice walks hand in hand that you’re missing. You never really know til you try it, right?

1408586 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 08:38AM

I know this is an old post but if it was a friend I would say don’t have sex outside your marriage unless you are 💯 sure. For some people the guilt can be crippling and can lead to confessing and the break up of marriage.

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boav91 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 07:20AM

There is some sensible advice on here people are here for different reasons. For me it was because there was just something missing that was insidious and I could not fix in what I had but neither did I want to walk away. My ie I eventually met is in the same boat. Neither of us wanted to change our situations but had failed to rectify what we had. By now meeting , carefully and with as little risk to wider life as possible, it seems to release that pent up frustration in "real" life.

I think I agree you need to know why you are doing this. Meet in a neutral space to see if online comparability is the same in person and as so many of these forums say, are you physically and mentally connected, is the first kiss something that melts you or sends you running?

The first meet is always hardest to some degree and I am sure for a while at least there may be guilt and worry too as well as the excitement this all brings but if you are here you are already thinking you need more than maybe you just go for it

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1629944 - 31 Oct, 2023 - 01:23AM

You are here, which means you want it. You already meet someone…so…

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