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Artstudent - 30 Oct, 2023 - 10:35PM

Just do it. Unless by taking it to the next level, you mean you are considering doing it in a lift, in which case that might be considered fairly adventurous by some....

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1631941 - 30 Oct, 2023 - 09:00PM

You don’t need to go full out for sex.
Just meeting someone to cheer you up. Makes your day

1631485 - 30 Oct, 2023 - 07:38PM

Some good comments here but without diving into your circumstances it's a little hard to speculate on your requirements:

Are you married or living with someone?
Do either of you have children?
When will you meet - the same time every time might look suspicious.
Where will you meet - again, same place all the time might look suspicious.
If you're contemplating a regular thing then beware of complacency - it's very easy to get comfortable with a routine!

How are you with guilt? Could you handle the psychological impact of having an affair? Or will you crumble after the event?

On the plus side, ad hoc meets can be very refreshing - not just for your ego, they can be very uplifting.

Choices, choices. It's really up to you and your circumstances weather you go ahead or keep things plutonic.

Good luck, whatever you choose!

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1326897 - 30 Oct, 2023 - 06:53PM

Don’t do it somewhere something is telling you not to

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Parttimebf - 30 Oct, 2023 - 01:55PM

Answer why you want an affair first?
Some need someone to pull them out of marriage
Some want to know they still got it.
If you don't want to leave marriage then u need to be very careful not to get too emotionally involved .. or be caught and the other person needs to be able to respect that.

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marklondonengland - 30 Oct, 2023 - 01:52PM

Ideally, you fix your relationship first. If that's not possible then you may consider ending the relationship. If that's unthinkable (kids, home etc) then maybe an affair can help you to enjoy life a little more without affecting your home life, but it's not guaranteed. You need to meet the right person with similar intentions and be prepared to stop if it is no longer giving you what you need or it becomes too risky. Also, consider the consequences of it becoming known by your partner. If you are careful then if can be a little extra spice in life and can work, but take care that you have shared intentions as this isn't like normal dating.

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BestThingsInLifeAreFree - 30 Oct, 2023 - 12:09PM

I think we are here as we are missing something in our relationships. Probably emotional or physical in nature or both.
Those seeking physical satisfaction only, may find themselves with deep emotional attraction also. Adding friendship means that your existing relationship may disintegrate - something which you may not have wanted at the start. This ultimately may be the best outcome for all concerned.
Of course there are the players, chatters, weirdos and sexters to contend with. If you've found someone, you will eliminate most of these issues. This place may be a temporary fix though. Remember "Big boys games, big boys rules"...Think worst case scenario...Hope you find your happiness 🙏

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DefinitelyMightBe - 30 Oct, 2023 - 10:23AM

Life is short, so if you are at the point where you think you want to try it, then try it. If it’s not for you then you’ll soon know but at least you won’t have any regrets. That goes for anything in life, not just a potential affair.

Runner6969 - 30 Oct, 2023 - 09:29AM

If it feel right, do it, I guess. As long as you are comfortable with the consequences, or better, worked out how to avoid there being any consequences.

Paula99 - 25 Jul, 2022 - 10:04PM

What if you have tried everything to resolve your marriage issues?
Councilor...doctor... friends...Wikipedia..other info..?