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Richard 170 - 30 Dec, 2024 - 09:03AM

Once you've taken the first step there's no place for iffing and umming!
Go for it as fortune favours the brave.
It may not work outas you

Purple dreamer - 30 Jan, 2024 - 11:26AM

Your only here once so don't put it off and regret what you could miss

Paula99 - 29 Jan, 2024 - 06:21AM

Some use the ONS option just because it’s what they want …quick and easy but others use it like a ‘get out clause’…especially those that can’t cope with the emotions that it dredges up ..they panic because they didn’t envisage all the ‘feelings’ that go with an affair….some have been out of the ‘dating scene ‘ for a long time that when it happens they can’t compartmentalise what’s going on and so the ‘pattern ‘ remains the same..
I know what you’re going to say that you can’t control your mind it’s that’s the way it’s wired or you have past experiences that fog it up and this is your ‘way out’


You do need to think of the OP in this and your actions create a reaction …the OP would think they had done something wrong so think carefully about the reasons why you are in this mindset..😁

1645560 - 28 Jan, 2024 - 11:51PM

When you are trapped in a loveless marriage it becomes a case of survival, there is no guilt for wanting some affection

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ClassyLady77 - 28 Jan, 2024 - 10:25PM

IF it’s right then you’ll know.. It’ll be easy.
First time is always hard.. I had my first ONS my first time and Never again but it was good to make me realise I could do this & didn’t feel guilty etc..

I met someone recently, we met for a drink and clicked however he was scared to cheat, he made me feel like I was a slut for wanting more. Other person has feelings too

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1602525 - 28 Jan, 2024 - 09:11PM

Simple lesson (from those who've been there) is you can't be sure . Stick to the same rules for 'normal dating' , three dates or more before committing to something serious. If they are'nt the right match then tell them asap. It doesn't hurt to be kind and saves you a whole lot of bother in the long run.

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giggly hamster - 28 Jan, 2024 - 06:51PM

@Utopia

Sadly no lucky escape. Nope, I did the deed and not just once.

When the paint washed off my eyeballs and nether regions I literally felt like Ace ventura when he finds out Einhorn is finkel and Finkel is Einhorn!

I couldn't unsee what I'd seen and there was no facility to have my memory wiped.
There are many times I've questioned male stupidity and irrationality, but that one, yes.. .
even now I won't have a roller blind in the house as it's far too close to an immensely pendulous boob unravelling - and not in a good way.

In a nutshell I was young, dumb and full of ...er... relish.
I think it should have said everything when before the first evening's PM's were cold she was already in her car driving down from that London. Oh my fidgety days, even now it makes me facepalm myself with a garden spade.

1636787 - 28 Jan, 2024 - 05:49PM

Well you've come this far and joined this group.
What was the reason for joining?
Is it still valid?
Time to give it a go..

Mr sub - 28 Jan, 2024 - 05:38PM

Hi

ExoticOrchid - 28 Jan, 2024 - 05:24PM

Utopia - 12:56PM

To quote Frank Sinatra ... 🎶 regrets, I've had a few ... 🎶

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