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cultured but dirty - 02 Jan, 2025 - 08:56AM

I think that whatever you do end-up doing, you can only really control your own approach to the affair. My advice would be to treat your IE with utmost respect and courtesy before, during and after.
You won't know if its right for you until you have done it, but if, having done it, you feel it isn't something that works for you then at least you will have behaved considerately. If you do decide it hasn't worked, then a phone call or a message on whatever platform you communicate on is the way to end it.
Wish you lots of luck and success, hopefully it all works out. I remember the pre-match nerves before my first affair but have since had two particularly joyous long term affairs that have ended on very good terms and with lots of respect. Good luck! :-)

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DiscoBobulate - 01 Jan, 2025 - 11:55PM

Test him, tease him, reject him. If he keeps returning for more, kiss him and see if his lips transport you to another universe.

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DiscoBobulate - 01 Jan, 2025 - 11:52PM

Don’t just submit to any old bloke. You may feel the need to just choose your first option. Don’t. However desperate you are, you need to vet your options. Choosing nobody is far more beneficial than just choosing anyone.

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Here we go 693 - 01 Jan, 2025 - 04:07PM

Paula99

Fair comment, it takes some amount of planning and commitment to keep an affair going. Also an understanding that shit happens and sometimes your best laid plans go horribly wrong.

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Paula99 - 01 Jan, 2025 - 12:07PM

BerkshireBiker…

It’s ok just saying that …but most in here don’t have the emotional intelligence/maturity/logistics/time to actually carry it out….they just think they do 😕

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1737126 - 01 Jan, 2025 - 07:55AM

Once you have accepted and come to terms with your decision, it then comes down to carrying it out as efficiently and skilfully so as to protect and not hurt anyone. All that should remain are positive experiences and chapters in people’s journeys.

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Purple dreamer - 31 Dec, 2024 - 08:13AM

Life is to short for iffing and umming

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1715930 - 31 Dec, 2024 - 06:51AM

Go for it you only have one life . You really like the person you have met so do it otherwise you will be kicking yourself I had my first affair before IE I was seduced on a business trip we had a long affair but distance caused its end So I came on here have had two affairs from here but both ended not by me one due to death the other just ran its course so here I am again

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Delicious Chaos - 30 Dec, 2024 - 08:08PM

In my opinion if you are umming and rr-ing too much then there’s your answer, don’t do it . It’s either in you or it’s not.

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Here we go 693 - 30 Dec, 2024 - 09:37AM

I've just come out of a one year affair with someone I met off her. My only regret is that it ended, but we have become good friends and will remain that way.
It was quite a shock I have to say and I am currently going through some sort of grief as I come to terms with everything. I only say this, not for sympathy, but just to make you aware that it's a possibility. One I hadn't even considered until now. I am in no way ready to get back on the horse yet, but I haven't thrown the idea of another affair out of the window yet.

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