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Tall Slim Suit - 17 May, 2020 - 10:39PM

You can lay out the rules from the start but obviously if you develop feelings there is nothing you can do. Perhaps it is cyncical but you could remember that you felt that excitement and attachment at the start of other relationships and keeping things as they are keeps it special and stops it fizzling out.

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1372902 - 17 May, 2020 - 12:50PM

do you have to go for it

maturenortherner - 16 May, 2020 - 08:56AM

There is bound to be some emotional attachment. My last relationship with someone I met on IE ended because the lady, who was widowed, fell for me. She said she was happy with the arrangement we had. No commitment but very passionate. She then decided that her feelings had grown and she wanted more. She knew I was married and things wouldn't change in the short to medium term. It was a shame because everything was good😪😪

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1329251 - 15 May, 2020 - 08:38AM

For me personally, I fell for a married guy when I was 19, we had a three year affair, we did everything. Totally an important factor in my sexual experience and learning. I definitely loved him, he said those words too but when the time came to end it (his wife changed jobs and it was harder to meet) I was very very sad.
I learned from that to just concentrate on the fun side. It has to be mutual, there needs to be absolute trust and connection, and if he was on other sites and actively practising sex with others I wouldn't take things further xx
I get to know my potential meets very very well before taking the plunge lol xx

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1353301 - 15 May, 2020 - 07:59AM

I have a very good connection with a guy we have been chatting every day since lockdown
We plan to meet up when possible,
We both have a lot of strong feelings for each other , but Distance is the problem and it's going to be hard to have a proper affair , but happy to see where it goes.

But as you can see I'm still on IE , Should I come off ???

MatureWorcsBBW - 15 May, 2020 - 01:59AM

If you don't offer exclusivity, I honestly don't understand why you would expect it.
I don't fall for the single men I've met in recent years. Let alone married men.

I'd certainly love spending special time with someone but I'm perfectly capable of compartmentalising my friendships.

I'm probably still looking for a significant man to be my long term partner but definitely not here. Not a man who isn't already free. All the potential fallout wouldn't be worth looking over my shoulder for the rest of our lives.

I'll happily stick with a dalliance or two.

1222947 - 14 May, 2020 - 11:44PM

I met the romantic love of my life on IE. We only met once, for two hours, we never slept together, we fell in love deeply but then something went badly wrong in our communications.She ended it abruptly and we were both left devastated by the experience. I will love her till I die, and I still choose to remember that love in small, discreet ways. It really was like a bereavement.

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1382044 - 14 May, 2020 - 08:43PM

Well my ie and I have done the deep stuff and agree that we love each other and hope to be friends for life even should we cease to be lovers.
But I am not 'in love' with him. I would like to see more of him but we have agreed that neither of us is moving away from out existing relationship. The time we have is therefore limited by our marriages and our work. I don't have other relationships and am not looking for one. I like to think the same is true for him but I'm open minded about it. I know he no longer comes on this site. However men and women have a different view of these things.

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1383048 - 14 May, 2020 - 08:22PM

Don't we all give something of ourselves to our IEs.

Charismatic attractive people will generally have many interested parties.

You have heard the old saying. It's better to lick honey with the crowds than eat your own soggy bread .

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stevegates2012 - 14 May, 2020 - 07:18PM

I have been with many married woman in the past - and yes I had a few fall in love with me and me them, it hard but you have to know why you doing this thing, is to have fun, or find a new love, you can love more than one person in your life, even when with someone.

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