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Nightowl779 - 01 Sep, 2021 - 04:55AM

I don’t think you can not fall for them eventually, you need to have some degree of feelings to be able to enjoy the intimacy. I fell hard and fast for mine but we were adults and soon realised we had to end it before we got any deeper.

1453895 - 29 Jul, 2021 - 01:01PM

Fallen heavily for two of my IE’s. If you are using IE due to issues with your spouse I can’t see how you can avoid emotionally bonding with your lover.
All that sex, all those chats, all that intimacy, we are biologically programmed to fall in love when that goes on.

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TheOneTrueDave - 29 Jul, 2021 - 12:32PM

We're all attached to wives/husbands but we're all prepared to 'play away', that's why we're here and we (should) know what we're getting into. Some attachment to an IE is expected, if there's no connection you wouldn't agree to meet in the first place, but more than that is merely a recipe for self-harm.

1310270 - 29 Jul, 2021 - 09:46AM

A proper IE should involve a degree of attachment but with honesty there comes the knowledge that although most of us give something to those we make love to you we are still not going to change the core of our lives. We are happy to add to it however!

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Your Sexy Woman - 29 Jul, 2021 - 12:41AM

Developing feelings is natural, especially as time goes by. The secret is to share them, enjoy them, be thankful for them but that is it. Becoming mutually close makes for sex with depth and meaning which some people want. But maintain the fantasy, no demands on either side and just enjoy that special relationship.

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Roostie - 28 Jul, 2021 - 01:27PM

As a man I too want exclusivity because with intimacy comes sensitivity and with sensitivity great sex.

To secure trust comes down to depth and breadth of communication. A whole range of communication is needed before you find out whether someone is hiding something from you.

Men like that can spoil it for the rest of us.

I would also be happy with a light-hearted fling but would never mislead a woman and outright lie to her.

orchid1967 - 28 Jul, 2021 - 10:51AM

I wonder why (well me anyway) could walk down the street and find myself thinking ' hmmm he's nice' although I know nothing about that guy. Yet on here, those that have photo's available, I look at and my initial thought is no!. I have to almost force myself to read their profiles to find something interesting for me to contact them.
Is it just me or do all women do this?
Does this mean that a lot of potentially good men get away because we make instant decisions based on one photo?

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1464615 - 28 Jul, 2021 - 09:32AM

Sometimes feelings just happen but you di not want or need an IE who is playing the best internet!!!

1458849 - 23 Jul, 2021 - 07:09PM

He is someone else’s husband . Your / we are the extra bit on the side . Can’t have double standards

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1346010 - 23 Jul, 2021 - 04:25PM

Oh I do feel for you, you must have been devastated. Pick
Yourself up dust yourself off. Comfort yourself with a few dates and perhaps indulge in a few naughty one night stands to dilute your feelings x

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