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boav91 - 23 Jul, 2025 - 07:44AM

Is it possible to find a partner in here? Absolutely.. is it easy? No far from it for me and I think for women finding the right one is hard too.

It took me a year writing to hundreds of people and getting really stressed about it before relaxing and thinking what the hell and just going with it to eventually meet someone. That someone I remain with so yes you can find people but it is hard.

The, not just saying hi thing is useful but it is also not an absolute. I have been ignored talking about things on people’s profile to just saying hello. Sometimes you have to try and keep trying, although showing you are interested busy reading their profile and commenting is always more likely to get a response than a totally generic comment.. There are unrealistic expectations also on both sides also sometimes that don’t help, but there are genuine people too. Keep going it can happen.

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roop00f - 23 Jul, 2025 - 12:53AM

Nice to know

GolfBeachBeer - 22 Jul, 2025 - 11:36PM

Gonna say personally I'm not here for a one night stand or a booty call and am more interested in an actual relationship so please take that into consideration on my answer!

My profile is 100% me and what I'm looking for, haven't tried to embellish just told the truth about what I'm looking for and what I am willing to give. No dick pics etc... my photos are me from the last few months, no filters etc.....

Had some very nice conversations with some amazing ladies that wouldn't work for us where right up front we both knew it wasn't going to work but still had some fantastic conversations, as well as some that ended very abruptly. I think that's going to happed.

Other point I would mention is be realistic on the distance.... why send a message to someone that's 100 miles away? What are you looking for?

I'm pretty confident there are VERY few ladies here that are looking to jump into bed right away. I might be wrong but I'm sure a lot of women here are looking for a little more.

1763897 - 22 Jul, 2025 - 11:05PM

Think of it as an elevator pitch. You only have one message to make a good first impression. In the subject line, show that you’ve read their bio. Use something from their bio but make it a bit witty or impressive.

In the main body be kind and thoughtful, genuinely act interested. Spell check and punctuate properly if you don’t already do. Take your time, and most importantly be confident. So what if you’re 1 in 59. You have to be in it to win it.

Avoid things like:
I bet you’re inundated with messages - it doesn’t show confidence.

Avoid things like what would you like to do on a first date - then think it’s an opportunity to ask for a hotel meet.

Try to avoid sending messages to people who are like 100miles away as it’s a logistical nightmare no matter how much you might try to negotiate it.

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SirrahNek - 22 Jul, 2025 - 05:31PM

Don’t overthink it. Chat on the forums. Be funny, be engaging, be human, be nice. Don’t be a creepy pervert. Have a good and genuine profile. Post some nice pictures that represent who you are (not of your car, well not unless you are a car - you never know with AI these days!). Don’t be a dick.

Reply nicely to any messages you receive. Watch who follows you, and send them a nice message.

I found that by doing that I didn’t need to message anyone. My date found me. Good luck.

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Sexylover87 - 22 Jul, 2025 - 05:10PM

I seem to be struggling to get a conversation going. I have had a few emails from women reaching out to me, even asking for my details, but before I've finished reading their mail they've seemingly deleted it and blocked me! I can't respond quicker than it takes to type or think a response. What am I doing that is so bad? Need advice as this isn't working at moment..

Norfolkthisevening - 13 Jul, 2025 - 02:05PM

Just be yourself. Ask what you feel is appropriate. These ladies are pretty smart and they’ll soon tell you if they like or dislike what they read.

1796736 - 10 Jul, 2025 - 02:21PM

The hardest thing for me is not finding a match but one thats close to where i live. The ladies of caerphilly,cardiff and newport seem to be difficult to get a hold of

Paula99 - 30 Jun, 2025 - 06:23PM

What is this ‘ladies are approached a lot ‘? ???

Ladies do get approached but not in the amount of ways that you think….we are not inundated with messages like a shopping list . ..usually the OP is 200miles away either Scotland or London…if you are not in the south then you are at a massive disadvantage….I am in the North West … nearest cities are Manchester and Liverpool of which I am not prepared to drive anywhere near ..

As for the queue.. tell me where I’ll join it 😂😂

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Black Gent - 30 Jun, 2025 - 06:08PM

Sorry to break it you but you are another guy in the queue.I am not being mean but women get hit on in real life every day. So why should it be different here. I accept that the numbers are more even on here but they are accustomed to being approached on here. Now 2Leading with your wallet may work with the shadier women on here but that is not really a solution and escorts could work out cheaper and safer. Just review your profile and read profiles very carefully and keep going. I do not auto reneew if I know I am going to be busy as it boils down to a numbers game.

Happy hunting!