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Mod.. - 04 Aug, 2025 - 07:23PM

I spent years chasing ladies.. Never got me any fitter.. 🤷

shyguy65 - 31 Jul, 2025 - 04:02PM

I re-discovered that after many years of having the light on in the bedroom just to read a book or watch TV, wasn't the best use of my time, and that with the right person, the sex I'd missed for so long, felt like the first time, every time we got together.

Cheryl Kim - 27 Jul, 2025 - 06:37PM

It is not just MM that you should be directing this post to 😜

laugar164 - 27 Jul, 2025 - 05:35PM

Massage mark
I hold several black belt and above in various martial arts
Also a sports massage and acupuncture but I never boast to gain a lady 😜

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Amandi1712 - 27 Jul, 2025 - 11:03AM

The realisation that you have so much to give to another person, that has been lost in my marriage over time.

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MassageMark - 24 Jul, 2025 - 10:45PM

I’m a PT and massage therapist so if you want to get fit drop me a line

GolfBeachBeer - 24 Jul, 2025 - 07:48PM

Wow, this one was a strange one for me reading the comments, there are so many negative comments for the OP who obviously took this as a positive thing and I agree it is.
Going to give my opinion from my position, as there are obviously 1000 people in a different situation.
If you are here, you are here because you are unhappy in your marriage but cant leave for whatever reason, you are just settled in your marriage and its like friends living together and you are looking for more (My situation), or you are happy in your marriage but your sex life is lacking or you aren't getting what you want. (yup there will be a load of other reasons).

For all of these reasons though why would you want to bother to put that extra effort in for your partner? And if you are putting it in for yourself why would you be happy with a partner that isn't putting the effort in looking after themselves?

Then you join here, find your IE and all of a sudden you feel like there is a reason to feel good again? Absolutely fantas

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Paula99 - 24 Jul, 2025 - 11:53AM

Laugar164 isn’t wrong in his post and he has an opinion…it’s good to see people with different views…people do use their partners as an excuse because it’s the easy way out and it’s a known fact ..
Debate is healthy and should encourage more to speak out …we are of an age that we need to be mindful of what we say ( for the pc brigade 🙄)…but it is importance that we don’t loose our voices..

boav91 - 24 Jul, 2025 - 08:39AM

@lugar, of course in some ways you are correct but you are also wrong and being hopefully, unknowingly judgemental. Gaslighting and coercive control are seen in both men and women and you really don’t know each persons situations. You obviously can be right that some self reflection may be needed but life is never simple and if an affair is a release or motivation for some people, good on them. If they get the encouragement there they don’t at home also good on them. If a couples therapy session would resolve the issues in everyone’s lives you would not need divorce. My point is life is complicated. Being here is a choice because other things did not go as we imagined, if people then find some degree of happiness and helps wider life too, good on them IMO

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Paula99 - 24 Jul, 2025 - 05:33AM

We are not getting any younger ..!!

I do find that members of this ‘club’ are already thinking about making changes to their lives before they arrive here….but when you are at a crossroads in your life as many are then thinking that you need to ‘get back on the horse’ isn’t always the answer to your prayers….

There are lots of reasons that define the journey into IE and mine wasn’t entirely because of my partner ….I am sure that I have my faults and I didn’t come here for perfection..

I have learned that you make your own destiny/life choices but for some at this point in their lives ..are doing this as a last resort before the natural bodily limits kick in….just to see if this is the end as so to speak ..

I have met some great friends…as we get older we do tend to ‘hold onto ‘ things….not looking to blame anyone for my choices …but I am grateful for what I have ..😊

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