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laugar164 - 23 Jul, 2025 - 06:27PM

Oh dear a lot of people blaming there partners in this thread sometime we have to look at ourselves as well it's probably never one sided

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Amandi1712 - 23 Jul, 2025 - 03:59PM

I was so used to being in a marriage that was so full of selfishness that the affair allowed me to give again both physically and mentally. I loved it and want it again.

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boav91 - 23 Jul, 2025 - 10:18AM

So I can understand this. I was beginning to exercise before I came in here. Turning 50 and with all the risk changes to health that brings, tablets etc that come with age, I wanted to change but the extra motivation is also what I found here, especially those times you normally would give up and not bother. Someone who appreciates the effort and compliments me and the outcome of that effort which is not the case so much at home. Is a real motivator. It keeps me wanting to do more and to get fitter. It helps with the fun side of meeting too ;)

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Kissme1973 - 23 Jul, 2025 - 09:40AM

I changed because R made me feel like a sexual being there’s a difference between wanting to be sexually active and desired to feeling desired wanted and cared for, sadly we parted as friends but be happy for what you had not sad for what you lost.
I’m still looking for the next R and the next passion filled afternoon but it will happen if it’s meant to

EmnEm123 - 06 May, 2025 - 08:16PM

SirraNek

By jove old chap, you're quite correct! 😜

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SirrahNek - 06 May, 2025 - 09:51AM

I love the threads here - but I admit that I have a problem with this one. I can’t understand why I’d change my lifestyle to have an affair. I mean, it’d be a bit bloody obvious - where’s the discretion?

There’s another point too - if I let myself go to the extent that I’d have to change my entire lifestyle to be attractive to women then you’d have to pity my poor wife. What has she done to deserve some slovenly arse who thinks that sex should be on tap regardless of whether or not any effort has been made?

So, I think, don’t change your lifestyle. Just make an effort in all that you say and do. Make an effort with your appearance, be kind, considerate, attentive and thoughtful. And if you have to change your lifestyle to do that then make a conscious effort each day not to fall back into slobbish habits.

I mean to say, cripes!

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EmnEm123 - 04 May, 2025 - 07:29PM

James with the bluest eyes

Sorry, but what an absolute bore fest.

Could you never be yourself with your partner?

Relationship's break down, fair enough, but be honest.

Don't try the pseudo romantic crap, it's not in the least attractive.

James with the bluest eyes - 02 May, 2025 - 10:47AM

The knowing that I am not alone in seeking somebody with whom I can be myself and they can be their self.
Shared passions and the introduction of new desires and like you different opportunities to meet and share.

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1610442 - 28 Apr, 2025 - 01:13PM

@ Rumielias

So not so much a happy ending. God what a downer

1775591 - 28 Apr, 2025 - 12:24PM

Not being judgemental or jumping to conclusions without knowing the facts. Realising that we are all different and we all have our own reasons for being on this site.

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