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Here we go 693 - 14 Aug, 2025 - 08:40AM

SirrahNek

Good for you, it's great when it works out.

SirrahNek - 13 Aug, 2025 - 10:39AM

Not really. But, and perhaps because I wasn’t looking and I don’t act desperate, I’ve not had a problem getting attention from the ladies. The problem is being in a position to act on it - I’m not prepared to have an affair in my own doorstep! Hence IE.
And it worked. I now have my wonderful significant second, and I love the attention she gives me (and I love being able to attend to her). But it doesn’t make me feel more desirable - but that was never the point.
Why am I still here? For the forums. I can’t get enough of your thoughts and chat.

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Paula99 - 11 Aug, 2025 - 04:02PM

The key to this is emotional maturity and thick skin..if you are just going to come online and whine about all the ‘negative’ comments and website imperfections then you are setting yourself up to fail miserably…

You are not going to like everyone and vice versa ….think about it …if you went into a party and the place was jam packed there will be only one person that takes your fancy

Online dating isn’t perfect but it’s an outlet and it’s better than most of those websites that promise miracles..

It has been said on here before it is possible to find an IE and then you will feel desired and more content but this is a cross section of our little island and you may get more than you bargained for …🙂

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Jaded Male - 11 Aug, 2025 - 09:47AM

Very much so.
Not just desirable, more alive, more vibrant, more motivated.
I suppose having that secret something helps dealing with the more mundane in life.

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Paula99 - 17 Dec, 2024 - 07:36PM

It doesn’t make you feel more desirable… it just makes your home/work life more chilled…😁

1727600 - 17 Dec, 2024 - 02:45PM

yes it does

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1725148 - 23 Nov, 2024 - 03:01PM

No it didn’t and no it wasn’t.

FitFanatic41 - 19 Nov, 2024 - 08:32AM

Yup 😂

Willworkforwine - 18 Nov, 2024 - 09:28PM

To each their own, I'd guess, but whilst I've felt more desired, I don't think I've felt more desirable. Having someone be interested in me has been great, and a great boost to mood, but I don't think it's made a difference to how I actually feel about myself.

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1717658 - 18 Nov, 2024 - 09:02PM

Well if something like intimacy was seriously missing and now you've resolved the issue then in most cases, ask IE's and they will reply that actually they felt they were better able to contribute and deal with the situation at home proactively and responsibly

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