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Feminine charm - 27 Apr, 2025 - 04:37PM

We don’t wanted to be interviewed for a start.

Also don’t be asking intimate questions - our lives have nothing to do with you, so jobs and family dynamics are not for discussion. Let a woman offer up this information

Reading our profiles is a big one… and taking into account what we are looking for.

In my experience, the few that get through spoil it by taking my invitation to meet for a coffee as automatic that we are going to jump into bed straight after.

Then there the guys that literally don’t want to put in any effort to show a woman a nice time.

NB guys - if you treat the transaction like an escort then don’t be suprised if that’s what you attract.

Masculine men know who to treat a woman and know that dinners , gifts and shopping trips are all part this.

If you can’t afford that then fine - don’t expect a woman to pick you.

I suspect this will ruffle some feathers, but it’s transactional we are all looking for something.

If you can’t do the. bare m

tmn2024 - 27 Apr, 2025 - 10:46AM

I can only imagine the amount of mail women receive on here, it must be impossible to keep track of it. And men have to try and battle that....it's demoralising most of the time. It's like sperm heading for an egg and only one in millions makes it through.

Maybe the trick is to figure out what it is about that one sperm that makes it the successful one. And the trouble there is that different eggs all like different things, so there's no hard and fast rule.

Conclusion? Be yourself and keep at it. One day if your lucky, a suitable "egg" will be in your path and magic happens. It's always going to be a long shot, but hey - that's life.

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Cookie2557 - 27 Apr, 2025 - 10:12AM

I don't reply to the introduction messages which are a carbon copy of the profile. No effort has been shown, just button clicking

Try reading her profile and asking a question based on what she's written. Of course, that only works if there is detail in the profile.

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boav91 - 27 Apr, 2025 - 07:49AM

It is a real challenge on here to stand out. The first time I was on here it totally drained any confidence in myself that I had any attractiveness to women. No matter what you did, followed the advice of reading profiles and using them as a way to engage someone, most people just ignore you still.

A few people don’t and are genuine and eventually one of them turned into my current long term ie. To some degree you have to accept sometimes this medium is false and really hard to show who you really are in a few words. But like speed dating only harder. If you get past this first part however and people do really engage with you it can work so you just have to keep trying . I think the change in my mentality from caring people ignored me and stressing about it to realise it was the approach that was hard changed my view too.

Do be yourself, be funny, do read what they have said, although some profiles don’t give you much to work with, and if they like what they see, well then , good luck.

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I_need_some_fire - 26 Apr, 2025 - 11:10PM

It’s a difficult one to answer as all women are after different things. I don’t like soppy stuff or someone trying too hard. I’d rather just a normal message and if it’s witty and makes me smile, I will respond. But some women may want to be asked what their fave colour is or how many orgasms you will give her, that’s not for me though.

Peaches1 - 18 Apr, 2025 - 11:00PM

Stick with their age range if possible because I have had lots of messages with people far older than me. People have their preferences so you would be wasting your time if you are 60's messaging a person in 30's. Just my experience of people wasting time and expecting a reply.

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Funguy77 - 18 Apr, 2025 - 08:16PM

Emm123

Always.. trouble is no one has figured me or my profile out yet 😛😛

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Funguy77 - 18 Apr, 2025 - 08:15PM

@Nek

That’s one of my questions never to ask …

Well never on a first date

EmnEm123 - 18 Apr, 2025 - 07:59PM

SirraNek

That was the first question in his previous post! 😯😂

Funguy77

Are you trying to tell us something? 😆

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SirrahNek - 18 Apr, 2025 - 06:05PM

Funguy - tiny typeface on my computer - your Question 10. The ‘r’ and the ‘n’ pretty much crashed into each other to make a question that really shouldn’t ever be asked in an introduction!

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