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1663070 - 05 May, 2024 - 11:35AM

I don’t mind if someone wants to explain why they have ended up here. But being disrespectful about their wife is a big red flag to me, or not taking any personal responsibility for their problems. How balanced is this individual? Have they ever actually grown up? I had an AP suggest he fucked me in my marital bed….🙄 So apart from how dodgy that would be 8n terms of opsec for me mate….wouldn’t it be easier if I brought my husband and you pissed on him directly 🙈🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

1408586 - 05 May, 2024 - 11:21AM

I was always very private before I’d met someone. Questions like that I’d say I’m happy to discuss over a coffee- definitely not with anonymous strangers though Legs&Eyes. None of their business really!

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1587522 - 05 May, 2024 - 11:20AM

Continued….

It’s not ‘over-sharing’ that creates the problem, it’s the ‘over-questioning’ of someone who wants to be honest and transparent 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anyway. Happy Sunny Sunday all!

😘😎☀️

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1587522 - 05 May, 2024 - 10:53AM

There’s balance to be found with this though…

It maybe because of my circumstances, but I find guys push me for more and more information. It takes me into having to consider what I share & how much - my need to be open & transparent weighs heavily when the push for answers goes on & on …

why are you single? Why no kids? Did you want kids? Have you really never been married? Why did you choose to remain single? And on.

In order to honestly answer I have to explain context. And my need for being honest means I won’t lie. And so sometimes there’s sadness behind that in the story…
And when I’ve tried to say is it necessary to know that - I often get blocked or ghosted 🤷🏻‍♀️ I guess because at that point I look evasive.

So I dont really get a lot of guys moaning about their situations -but I seem to get a lot that want me to overly explain my own! 🤔

Hard to read signals on written messages BUT this is a long way of saying sometimes it’s not ‘over-sharing’ that

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1633195 - 19 Mar, 2024 - 12:11PM

I have met two women on IE the last time I tried it. Both ok in chat, but face to face, their “issues” quickly came out and their lives were one dead dog short of a Country song. I guess what you have to ask yourself, is this worth it? If it is, jump right in, if not politely and gently move on and hope for the best next time.

Tillymintz - 19 Mar, 2024 - 11:06AM

I just reply with a link to a good therapist and move on... harsh, but saves me the headache further down the line!

1654086 - 19 Mar, 2024 - 09:28AM

I have a different question, regarding etiquette on here. I am polite and respectful of every person I contact on here, mindful they may not find me their cup of tea or vice versa. Is it normal that women would just block you early into a conversation after replying to your message. I should be clear, I had said nothing controversial, not even beyond the "how is your day" stage. If you are not interested in someone, do you just BLOCK them so they cannot reply? I find that rude and bit weird, no?

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1649338 - 19 Mar, 2024 - 09:14AM

It is indeed a turn off but the fact that someone lets that overspill is also worrying
Let’s face things like not swapping pics after agreeing to are emotionally very difficult to cope with
We are trying to reason the unreasonable
Nobody is going to declare up front that once comfortable here comes my emotional baggage

1575033 - 07 Mar, 2024 - 09:10PM

I cannot imagine why anyone would be interested in any baggage I might have.
Best to have a coffee meet for 5 minutes, addresses all sorts of issues both ways.
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Enigma.. - 06 Mar, 2024 - 09:18AM

I have to admit that I’ve been chatting to a couple of males and things were looking positive.
Yes… finally someone who can chat about more than just the weather lol.
Then a few days down the line it all changes and they have started moaning about their wife, family, friends, work and other situations in their lives.
It really is off putting.
I’m on here to find someone and someone positive at that.
I do not want someone else’s emotional baggage dumped at my door… so to speak.
I apologise for being so blunt but that’s the way I feel.
Like it or not 🤷🏼‍♀️.

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