When should I declare a disability?
When joining IE there are opportunities to declare your age, religion, sex , ethnicity and sexuality but nothing about disability. Now I support the Social Model of Disability - put simply , it is the barriers in society that disable people with impairments, not the impairment itself.
Declaring a disability is a bit of a minefield on IE . Declaring too early and you crash and burn. Don't declare at all and you might be giving a completely wrong impression about who you are.
So should I included a nuanced mention to being a disabled person in my profile or not? I would love to chat with ladies who are in the same situation but how on earth can we identify each other here when it is so difficult to declare?
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Peaches1 - 06 Mar, 2024 - 05:30PM
I think it's best to mention this early on. Not all people are shallow but quite a few people on here are seeking perfection as they think that actually excists. I had a relationship with a man who had total erectile dysfunction. Would have preferred him to be honest from the start really.
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TJJ89_fun - 15 Feb, 2024 - 10:11AM
I think you should only declare it as and when you feel comfortable. It’s not somebody else’s right to know if you have a disability or not xx
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FluffyClouds - 08 Feb, 2024 - 10:52PM
There are people with disabilities on IE. Physical disabilities are usually mentioned in the profile, unseen disabilities usually (or not) come up in conversation at some point.
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Marlen - 07 Feb, 2024 - 12:53AM
Be honest. You may have a disability, but it may not be an impairment, to what you seek here.
If you aren't comfortable with it how do you expect a prospective IE to deal with it?
If its a visible impairment, how would you 'hide' when you meet?
We're all flawed, some, more so than others. Being physically, emotionally, etc. Perfect doesn't make you a good IE
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Jcruzz9 - 06 Feb, 2024 - 10:42PM
I mean, think about it as though you are going through the airport customs gate, "nothing to declare" is a natural instinct, because you don't want to pay the price of import tax. I suppose disability carries that invisible tax, fear of "what if" thinking process.
laugar164 - 06 Feb, 2024 - 04:05PM
@paula 5ft 2 nice you don't get diamonds as big as rocks
Just the right size for me 😉
Paula99 - 06 Feb, 2024 - 03:56PM
I think if you have an impairment then it’s better to put into your profile …it saves all of the back and forward messages and some are not civilised at rejection..
I can see why it’s not in the profiles because maybe the OP feels like they are not going to get passed first base…but it’s much easier to ‘get it all out in the open ‘..
Dwarfs like sex …I am under 5 ft 2😂
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