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Cheryl Kim - 02 Apr, 2025 - 05:19PM

SirrahNek - 02 Apr, 2025 - 11:54AM

There is relaxed and there is clearly pussyfooting about. I am in the ‘meet only if there is potential’ camp. That means, not early. But if you are off site, chatting great, talking about possibilities of a meet irl, then it is best to get a move on if the other party’s acting positively. Get a date pencilled in before they lose interest.

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Handsome Banana - 02 Apr, 2025 - 04:29PM

The connection should be where you can't wait to be in bed with that person. That's why we are all here after all.

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rarity23 - 02 Apr, 2025 - 04:07PM

Here we go 693

Totally agree here, having finally had that connection on all levels, with my last affair.
It made the affair far better than anything else I have experienced through this site.
It just hurt more when it ended, but here I am trying to find it again 😊

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rarity23 - 02 Apr, 2025 - 04:01PM

J2ohn1

I always make a point of asking for feedback on pw swap , at you know where you stand !

SirraNek

It should naturally flow to that point, after pw like, and agreeing to move off site to communicate.

Carer69 - 02 Apr, 2025 - 03:12PM

This is a very individual matter. Some women get a lot of meeting requests, but have limited time. They need to chat for a while to see if it's worth progressing to a meeting.

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Paula99 - 02 Apr, 2025 - 01:49PM

J20hn1..

Your lady was polite and she told informed you that you were not what she was looking for ….most guys/women tend to winge that they get no ‘feedback’ so don’t let it worry you.. some are looking for a niche type of person …plus we are not looking for perminant partners …
It’s how it works in here ….contrary to what people say they do have a type and are not willing to change their perceptions…. Happy hunting 😊

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ExoticOrchid - 02 Apr, 2025 - 01:42PM

PS: I have never been offended by being asked to meet quickly (usually with an apology, worrying about being too pushy) and happy to do so if the schedules and logistics align.

ExoticOrchid - 02 Apr, 2025 - 01:38PM

SN - 11:54AM

Personally, from experience, having done both the weeks and just a few days of messaging, I am firmly in the "Meet ASAP" camp ... it saves both parties a lot of time (especially for the man as he's paying for his time here) and only meeting in person will tell you if there's that much heralded "connection" or not (also physical attraction).

SirrahNek - 02 Apr, 2025 - 11:54AM

J20hn1, I think ExoticOrchid is right - and it’s fair enough. It’s happened to me. If she wants a bearded body builder and she see’s my photo of course she isn’t going to be interested - and, yes, you may have a lovely personality, but if your pic doesn’t attract then sometimes that’s enough. It’s fine.

The question I have, as a fairly relaxed, and absolute noob, is how soon is too soon to say “virtual is nice, but how about we meet up in person at a nice cafe - see if we enjoy spending time today”. I don’t want to put anyone off by being too pushy - equally, I don’t want to put anyone off by appearing too relaxed.

Funguy77 - 02 Apr, 2025 - 11:52AM

I now have a dislike to that word Connection .

Why did the Wi-Fi break up with the router? Because it found a better connection!
Why don’t skeletons ever fight each other? They don’t have the guts... and their connection is always lost!
What’s the most important part of a relationship? The Wi-Fi connection – because if it’s weak, nothing else will work!
Why did the smartphone go to therapy? It had too many unresolved connections!
I tried to connect with a girl at the bar, but our Bluetooth kept disconnecting. It was a short-lived relationship.

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