What do we really disclose?
Meeting a new person is always exciting. However most of us are meeting illicitly. What are your boundaries when disclosing personal details? Do we reveal our full names, places of work, give details about our family? What type of information are you willing to share? How much is too much?
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1622864 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 07:38PM
I had a ridiculous incident with this type of thing on Friday. Someone I thought might be a match started chatting and quite early on revealed her name which just happened to be exactly the same as my wife’s name. This, coupled with other similar details in her profile made me a bit cautious so I held back from offering my name, until I could be sure that my two worlds had not somehow merged. In a very short time I was being accused of being a very nasty politician, which could not be further from the truth… This can be a very weird place… but still, I come back for more.
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1628321 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 07:04PM
It’s a difficult question to answer
You are both consenting adults. Hopefully ironically trustworthy and have already set a few boundaries before you meet.
Although reality is, best keep details a minimum which is difficult as most people are curious and want to ask lots of questions.
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1104299 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 06:54PM
Intuition will tell you whether it’s right or not, until then I keep most details at arms length. I’m very reluctant when the ‘show me your picture’ type ask for a picture at the 2nd message…. I’ve no idea who I’m talking to so why would I send my face over?! Granted I’m not everyone’s cup of tea looks wise, but still… it could be anyone at the other end!
TheBoredHousewife - 09 Oct, 2023 - 05:18PM
Need to know basis really. There are some things I will reveal and some that I’ll only share when I’m truly comfortable. There are lots of things that people can talk about other than the boring usual details, and still be able to get to know each other and get a connection.
Delicious Chaos - 09 Oct, 2023 - 04:11PM
I remember back in the early days a guy giving me his business car. I thought it odd but he said well at least you know I’m not a weirdo who is going to attack you.
Ok then!
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Purple dreamer - 09 Oct, 2023 - 02:45PM
I think on a first meet it is just general information
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dem112 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 02:21PM
I guess most from here would be singing from the same sheet and once they get to know one another, more will come out, in my case if I told them about my company it wouldn't be hard to find lots out about me, its all about trust at the end of the day
Jasper1769 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 01:24PM
It’s all about being transparent without increasing any risk to either party we are all here searching for someone to connect with for whatever reason. There are many people on here from both sides that just want to start a chat see it’s not going anywhere and then block rather that being adult and saying’this isn’t for me’ honest in an unhonest world is better.. transparent, tell the truth about a situation and spent time getting to know someone.. instant gratification rarely comes from one word answers.. meet in public, be safe, and be adult about it!
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Highlandguy777 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 11:49AM
I would get to know them a bit before meeting eg.first name,hobbies/interests and chat about different things over a period of time to see if there was something there first.Then if you start meeting regularly then slowly give away as much as you feel comfortable with.
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