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1602069 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 12:32PM

i would say casual and long term affair would be my goal, no looking to leave my current wife or upset anybody else's family or marriage situation. not looking to sleep around either regular meetup with a nice female for fun and giggles :-)

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logicboy - 22 Sep, 2023 - 12:08PM

I'm not looking to unnecessarily upset or offend anyone on here but if someone's profile says looking for casual I might message them and explain to them an opportunity I have coming up and whether they could ever be interested in a 6 day fling... (given our distance couldn't realistically be expected to go beyond that)

Well, if they say they find me asking them offensive or rather "rude and condescending" - well, what can you do!!? Maybe audacious... Maybe optimistic... Maybe other things... But rude and condescending???

We're playing with fantasy on here as someone else in another thread pointed out. If we can't even hear an indication of other people's fantasy without taking it personally... Well, it's a shame.

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1587522 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 11:49AM

Yes, its confusing, as different guys (and ladies probably too) interpet this in different ways.... as this is a married-persons website - to me, a long/short relationship IS an affair....

So 'casual' is a hook-up, ONS or something that can be repeated multiple times, perhaps with multiple connections, as and when, perhaps or maybe... and not the sort of committed affair I'm looking for. To me, an affair is a 'relationship' in this setting.

So where a guy refers to casual, I ask their interpretation of it to clarify, as on its own it means different things to different people...

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1614937 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 09:10AM

I was wondering that too and thought that "casual" implies a repeatable one night stand, if that makes sense! I also wonder how short is "short term relationship"? Is that a ONS, something that lasts for a couple of weeks or simply a relationship that isn't expected to last forever? But, to my mind, none of it is important (unless you have a particular desire to avoid profiles that say "long term" or "casual") as "see how it goes" covers all the bases! Until you've made contact with someone, surely all bets are off?

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