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1447655 - 26 Jul, 2023 - 10:07AM

Outlier here (like most of the women on the forum.) I only wish I had been drawn by something so simple as a rich man, my whole life would have been easier! But I'll never be beholden to a man - it's ingrained in me so deep. Born working class, and a girl - if a man hasn't got the cahonies to appreciate me for the bloody self-made wonder I am, then to hell with him! Education was the only way up and out for me, and others like me, God love you all! It was get clever or find a man with money and hope he treats you nice. Well, i made that choice early on. No 'exec' will do it for me. It's not indicative of what I desire. And as Neneh Cherry" sang in her seminal hit 'Buffalo Stance' "no money-man can win my love". I do want something greater and what I perceive as better and higher to make me pant! I want a man I can look up to and admire for his brilliance... and hopefully, he's lying there finding me oddly brilliant too.

As for Travelodge or Savoy, it doesn't matter that much when it's 50/50 on day-rate.

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TheBoredHousewife - 26 Jul, 2023 - 09:10AM

Enigma.. - 26 Jul, 2023 - 08:47AM

Good cat!! 👏🏼👏🏼

TheBoredHousewife - 26 Jul, 2023 - 09:01AM

Fredholm2ndKindIntegralEquation - 26 Jul, 2023 - 07:24AM

It might be Beckysharp’s question. But I’ll answer it too if that’s ok.
I have my own transport and would take myself there. I’m a professional woman in my 40s and it’s not Prom night 😏 The type of hotel doesn’t matter as long as it’s clean with no cum stains from the previous guests!

If it is a first hotel meet, it might come down to who I think can give me a better experience 😜😈😈😈

Or maybe meet them both if I like them equally before deciding, is probably the logical and sensible answer!

Still waiting on your personal opinion…….🤔 All things being equal, would you prefer the woman would can hold her own and pay her own way or one that would allow you to be the chivalrous and successful gentleman that you are and let you lead all the way?

Enigma.. - 26 Jul, 2023 - 08:47AM

I was messaging with a male, on the site, from the Glasgow area.
We got as far as messaging onTelegram.
Three times we arranged to meet up and three times he cancelled at the last minute.

His third reason for cancelling, AGAIN, was the cat has ran away 😂🙄🤔🤷🏼‍♀️.

I replied…. Your cat, very obviously, has more sense and better taste than to hang around with/for you 😉.

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1408586 - 26 Jul, 2023 - 08:43AM

Ikr Enigma 😅

And the chances of finding TWO attractive and charming guys on here with chemistry (to compare their wealth)?! I’m just happy I found one 😂

Am also happy in a travelodge though so 🤷‍♀️

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Enigma.. - 26 Jul, 2023 - 08:32AM

@Fred

Personally…. I’d settle for either lol 😝.

Unfortunately the chances of meeting a male who would take you to a posh lodge in a nice car, on this site, are slim to none.

I guess it’s the bus and Travellodge for the majority of us.

If we actually get as far as a meet 😂😏🙄😉🤷🏼‍♀️.

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1408586 - 26 Jul, 2023 - 08:22AM

Not at all- like I said my opinion broadly in line with yours. But others have offered differently opinions

I don’t do fancy hotels etc so definitely not looking super wealthy only. Just similar to me.

So come on Fred… we’ve been waiting long enough!! What’s your opinion 🙏😂

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1604745 - 26 Jul, 2023 - 07:24AM

Beckysharp - 25 Jul, 2023 - 04:24PM

I just wanted my personal opinion not to be misrepresented as i havent actually provided it.

To say attraction is not a concurrent variable ("no evidence they are in any way relatable") across marriage and affairs is something we are just going to have to disagree on.

Just one last question if i may then no more on this topic. Dont dodge, dont bring in hypotheticals... 😄 just put yourself in the position and tell me what do you think most women will honestly answer...

Two men on this site. Equally attractive, equally charming, equal chemistry. One happens to be poor and offers to take you to a travellodge by bus the other is financially secure and offers to take you to a posh lodge in a nice car... you are picking the poor one?

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1408586 - 25 Jul, 2023 - 04:24PM

Fred if you are viewing things from your (male) perspective then that is your opinion right? Same as all others who post on forum. And all equally fascinating.

I doubt there are large studies on online dating specific to affairs. All other studies are specific to dating leading to marriage (hopefully). So no evidence they are in any way relatable.

I agree with you in general- but it’s just my opinion and your opinion. However we can both claim it’s common sense 😉😂

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1604745 - 25 Jul, 2023 - 03:45PM

Beckysharp - 25 Jul, 2023 - 01:11PM
TheBoredHousewife - 25 Jul, 2023 - 12:46PM

The initial question was general and was specifically around how much a job matters, on that discrete metric alone and all things considered equal, it matters in the majority of cases regardless of affair or marriage material.

You may prioritise things differently in an affair but what remains attractive for each dimension of a person is constant. e.g. Money is attractive to most women, just as looks and intelligence in an affair. However in marriage it is just given a greater priority.

I mentioned journals even when i disagree with the view based on my own experiences because i don't like to assume i am right and a wider viewpoint tend to calibrate opinions better. You dont actually need a study or methodology, you just need to view things from a wider (or dare i say male) perspective and then apply some good old fashioned common sense.

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