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1529050 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 10:05AM

secretflirt68 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 09:54AM

We are all human .... and make mistakes.

I much prefer the coffee or quick drink after work - then you have that excuse to leave after 20 mins or stay for another if it is going well.

I always make up in my mind the first meeting is just that a meeting - maybe if things are going well a cheeky kiss - but no more.

Not saying that is the same approach for everyone but I find it works for me

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secretflirt68 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 09:54AM

Dotty Green - 14 Sep, 2022 - 09:40AM

Thanks, I've messed up in the ways described in the past, I try and learn from my mistakes. I've messed up on the coffee approach too, but that's another story!

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1529050 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 09:40AM

secretflirt68 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 09:35AM

Well put

1529050 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 09:38AM

Bukowski69 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 08:50AM

I definitely agree first meetings should be very simple - cocktail sounds lovely - again it gives you both a get out if you are not compatible.

I like you, enjoy a lunch or dinner, but when we are further along def not for a first meeting and hotel fun (for me) is definitely not for a first meet.... Again who knows for some it maybe the right thing to do ....

secretflirt68 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 09:35AM

I'm with the coffee crowd, preferably during the day. Also to time limit the date to an hour. There are reasons - as has been said, it's enough to decide if you want to get each others kit off, it also allows both sides time and breathing space having an agreed finish time so that one doesn't hang on in the hope of something that's not going to happen. Even if you're both hot to trot, finishing after an hour is no bad thing - builds anticipation for next time. Evenings, pubs, alcohol, I find that the little voice can take over a bit and drag you into going further than you maybe intended, or when you look back later you think "well, I'm in now, this person isn't really what I wanted" - so then you're in as bad a situation as you likely are at home.

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Bukowski69 - 14 Sep, 2022 - 08:50AM

First dates are best striped back to a cocktail maybe in a lovely wine bar. Maybe lunch ? I would like a partner in crime that enjoyed both fun inside and outside of the bedroom. Maybe a morning of fun in a hotel and then a lovely lazy lunch x

rarity23 - 10 Sep, 2022 - 11:37PM

In lockdown, I had real back to basics dates with takeaway coffee and hot chocolate.......so simple, different and great.

rarity23 - 09 Sep, 2022 - 11:27PM

First date for me would be coffee/tea if in the morning.....the tables can be a bit close together though !

Lunchtime drink in the pub..... could follow onto lunch.

Early evening drink in the pub.

I think an hour together is good to start with, and see how you feel about other, and then maybe agree whether you both would like to see each other again

1545327 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 07:15PM

I've had a few first dates in restaurants, some have been the first and last other restaurant dates have led to much more. I like a restaurant as we can sit and talk and get to know eachother before either going our separate ways or going somewhere private for lots more

Paula99 - 08 Sep, 2022 - 02:29PM

Just go for coffee and cake...an hour is plenty to decide if you want to rip his clothes off..😜

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