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marklondonengland - 08 Jan, 2024 - 12:12PM

This depends on what you agreed. If you both agreed that your affair is monogomous - outside of your marriage - then it's unfair to see that agreement undermined. Some people do want the freedom to look around though - we are not finding a new marriage partner here. Just ensure that whatever you prefer is agreed up front. Given the effort that one affair requires in meetings, communication, and secrecy it would be hard to keep several going at the same time and not arouse suspicion. Either he is already separated or single or just enjoys naughty texts without ever bothering to meet?

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LadyDe - 08 Jan, 2024 - 11:26AM

Yep I have to agree… yet you’re still on here yourself …

Does it matter, we’re not married to these people, we’re not dating them to hope we fall in love. We’re all free people not owned by anyone, I have that attitude in my marriage, even more so here …

The one thing I would say is, someone very important once told me “if you wait for the best, you miss the rest” ..

Maybe having a constant fish is also exhausting. When I’m settled with my IE I will be exclusive to him, but i would never ask or expect the same from him.

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FreddieKat - 08 Jan, 2024 - 11:14AM

And yet you are also visiting the site yourself! Have to say most ladies are very flakey and unreliable. I'd only log off once we had established a mutually monogamous affair, after all most of us have other attachments before even joining.

Enigma.. - 08 Jan, 2024 - 10:24AM

If… and that’s a big IF…
I actually found someone on the site to get involved with again.
I would leave the site… as I have done so in the past.
Two successful affairs… as it states on my profile.
Still looking for my third 😃😉💋

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1481567 - 16 Jan, 2023 - 01:03PM

Surely the only reason you've seen them active on here is by being online yourself?
Are you saying it's ok for you to be on here and chat/read the forums etc, but the other person can't?
Hmm...

1541002 - 24 Nov, 2022 - 12:45PM

I agree that you should value yourself and what you have to offer.
Once you’ve started dating and he’s told you that you’re the one for him then there is zero reason as to why he would still be looking.
Yes men have to pay to use the website and I know this may attach a mental stigma to the situation but once you’ve found the one then you’re just wasting precious time on not spending it with them. X

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Soulman68 - 22 Nov, 2022 - 08:14PM

Hard to be certain until it happens, wouldn't be over the moon, but feels a bit double standard given the site we are on.

1552714 - 22 Nov, 2022 - 03:45PM

If you can’t settle for double dippers then you should ask yourself why you’re on this site anyway. If you want exclusivity stick with your partner and get over yourself

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Enigma.. - 18 Nov, 2022 - 10:35PM

@1Jackpot

I don’t block on a casual whim. The men involved deserved it.
Like a lot of females on this site I’m getting fed up and bored with the time wasters, players, double dippers and men who think a woman, when she accepts an offer of a coffee, drink etc, means she’s up for a sh@g.
And just to be clear the post I wrote was aimed at males on this site in general. Not one individual.
No matter how tempting it would be to name and shame… lol 😃😉😋

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1547827 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 10:16PM

Enigma.. - 18 Nov, 2022 - 08:52AM
The thing is I tend to have to make the approach. I get it wrong. I misread the signals. I'm cool when I should be more keen, and vice versa. I try again when I should just say "next". I make a fool of myself, I'm human. I pocket dial at 2 in the morning. Just the way it is.
Occasionally I get it right when I'm not trying too hard.
So please, be kind... don't go for the block unless he hasn't taken the hint.