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Paula99 - 04 Mar, 2024 - 04:22PM

Inviting someone to your home ..??

This is a strange one for me and it’s something I have only done the once….

You have your family/home
OP has their home/family
What you have in between is your little secret….
Why would you mix business with pleasure?

To add weight to the debate …I had an affair years ago and I went to his house …his wife was away…he cooked dinner and we had a fantastic evening in front of the open fire on a fluffy rug ..it was awesome but the next day we both admitted it felt wierd and it wasn’t something to repeat in the future….we are still friends to this day and chat about it in a fond memory way 😉

Artisa…if you know the person really well and you trust them then you decide for yourself ..STAY SAFE

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FluffyClouds - 04 Mar, 2024 - 03:45PM

Arista -

All I would advise is as a woman, only do that if you are absolutely sure of the person and safe. Ultimately, they'll know your address.

giggly hamster - 04 Mar, 2024 - 02:12PM

To be frank Arista, if it's agreeable to you both just fill your boots. Only you know if you're confortable with it.

Arista - 04 Mar, 2024 - 01:31PM

What is IE protocol on inviting an IE member to one's home....is there any expectation?

1615024 - 03 Mar, 2024 - 11:47PM

Surely IE is just that. We are all looking for a bedroom experience that is missing in our own lives. Chat a bit and then have a video call. If things click then surely the sooner one gets together and plays around the better. I liked the lady that slipped her panties off. Why not as long as there is trust and friendship and honesty?

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Madeupname99 - 03 Mar, 2024 - 07:48PM

I have experienced both ends of the spectrum (with IEs that lasted >6 months), one was very keen to jump into bed on our first meeting - which I was very surprised by!

On the other hand I had a number of coffee/drinks dates before we did anything more than hold hands or kiss.

There are no rules, only a suggestion to go with the flow, enjoy the company, move at your own pace, and never cross either's red lines

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Paula99 - 03 Mar, 2024 - 06:24PM

Ssrah2.1

There are people on here that are offering sound advice and they are speaking from experience…clearly you are looking at this site and trying to be open minded which is admirable…
This site is a cross section of the population and facilitates all the undesirables behind their keyboards …
Life is for living I agree …but jumping into bed with some guy you have just met isn’t the way to go…women do have a ‘sixth sense’ and 98% of the time it’s right ..sadly 😁

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FluffyClouds - 03 Mar, 2024 - 02:43PM

Aye aye. All of that below 😊
Might be a great first meet, but something’s just not right in the follow through to make it worth progressing. Pickiness, sixth sense, or whatever you want to call it……best to trust our gut instincts.

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FluffyClouds - 03 Mar, 2024 - 02:43PM

Ssrah 2.1 -

Some people are very good at 'putting on a show' at a first meet...the players, the love bombers, the fantasists living out their fantasy world of the perfect person and perfect affair scenario, the desperados, the manipulators...even the ones who really aren't that interested in you genuinely and just want an easy leg over. Yes, they are all on this site.

For those people 'perplexed' as to why women don't jump into bed with you, maybe the woman's instincts are more 'fine tuned' and 'selective'. Maybe, they're picking up Red Flag vibes from you. Maybe they're more experienced with seeing some men for what they truly are. Maybe you just 'don't do it' for them face to face. Maybe there are elements to your personality that they can't quite 'put their finger on' but have a 'bad feeling about'.

So no, it's not straight forward...and tbh, this is supposed to be a mutually beneficial experience.... maybe she's just not seeing you providing what's she's looking for and you give off 'bad vibes

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giggly hamster - 03 Mar, 2024 - 12:25PM

"If I fancy him then I go to the loo and slip my panties off XXX"

... and just like that Leggy Shiela's inbox needed a server room all of it's own.

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