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Enigma.. - 04 May, 2025 - 10:17AM

What I’d like to know is this….

If you are not actually looking for an affair then why are you even on the site!?! 🤷🏼‍♀️.

It’s the members, both male and female members, that are looking for hook ups and one night stands that are reducing this site to, yet another, cheap dating site.

This site used to work years ago.
Unfortunately now it just seems to be full of members that are just looking for cheap thrills 🤷🏼‍♀️.
Thus ruining the site’s reputation and spoiling the experience for those that are actually looking for more than a quick shag in a hotel, car, local field etc….

So if it’s just hook ups you are looking for then may I politely suggest beggaring off the site and go join…

Plenty of Pish.
Binder.
Tumble.
Binge.
Or the such like.

And let those members who are actually looking for a “genuine” affair get on it.

(Awaits the backlash 🙄😉😏🤷🏼‍♀️)

Well let’s face it… the above has needed to be posted for quite

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beware my love - 04 May, 2025 - 09:54AM

EMNEM123 who did I criticise? simply said that I and any IE i would want would feel worth more than meeting in a hotel as a starting point. Please do not try to remind me what the site is about . it is many things to many people, but not just a quick a leg over to me.Takes a certain sort of person to pull out their best on a first meeting again not my type, for an affair.My thoughts mind not to criticise.

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SirrahNek - 04 May, 2025 - 09:03AM

By the time you get to a first date stage, hopefully you know enough about your prospective partner that you can choose a venue that will be mutually interesting. I mean, if they aren’t into cheap beer and sticky carpets then a ‘spoons isn’t likely to cut the mustard. And if you’re both a bit nervous then it might be good to choose a venue that offers both the opportunity to talk, a distraction when you need it (and, ideally, secluded spaces to taste each others lips if it’s all going well!) So, it depends.

I like the advice about day rooms - but that does feel a little more second date to me. But only you can say how well you’ve been getting along with each other. And read KerryElizabeth’s and Purple Dreamers posts. Wise words.

KerryElizabeth - 02 May, 2025 - 03:58PM

I'd definitely meet in a public place for a first date, not too close to home. Go for a coffee and have a chat first, maybe have lunch and a longer chat.
Then, if all goes well, think about a hotel meet for next time. It would be very awkward if you didn't like the other person and you had a hotel room booked, despite chat going well on a screen here.
Establish any boundaries in a face to face chat. Unsure about moving forward? Have a second social date.

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EmnEm123 - 24 Apr, 2025 - 09:50PM

beware my love

You are the "take me out and treat me" type. If that's what makes you feel better about what you're doing, good luck with that.

Don't criticise others who are more honest and realistic about what this place is about.

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beware my love - 24 Apr, 2025 - 09:16PM

If you believe you are not worth more than a shag meet in a hotel room.I am worth more and would hope he would be too. Do not need a site for ONS and guys who do will not do

Clickable Connection - 23 Apr, 2025 - 10:10PM

@Purple Dreamer - good common sense advise

ExWRAF ret 2 - 22 Apr, 2025 - 11:44PM

There is a site called day rooms all hotels

SirrahNek - 22 Apr, 2025 - 10:05PM

There’s a lot of common sense here (and entertaining bants), but PurpleDreamer has dropped a really useful tip - and thank you for that. I realise that not all common sense is particularly common, but it is available to all. Useful websites though? That takes knowledge. Thank you.

Funguy77 - 22 Apr, 2025 - 05:56PM

If your both local go out for a walk I mean dogging 🤦🤦🤦 totally meant walk the dog . 🦮🦮🦮