How do you know?
Hi,
I am iffing and umming about taking the plunge and having an affair. I've met someone I really like, and now we want to take it to the next level. How can I be sure this is the right thing for me... I've never done anything like this before.
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zebedeedo - 02 Oct, 2020 - 10:38PM
Go for it, but with you eyes open. From experience, many years a go now, an affair has very high highs, but very low lows at times, but the highs win and make it all worthwhile.
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vgrhere - 02 Oct, 2020 - 04:39PM
Well, until you try, you won't know. Just be careful and walk away if it does not feel right. Trust your gut instinct
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1408384 - 02 Oct, 2020 - 03:18PM
Well you wont know until you tried so hey ho best get on with it
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1117169 - 02 Oct, 2020 - 02:40PM
@Its all about me
I had to look up "Cognitive dissonance" 😁
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1413266 - 02 Oct, 2020 - 01:52PM
No one ever knows till they try. Just go with the flow. If it feels ok.... then it is and, if not, then it aint. Only you know how you feel and no one can gain say your feelings.
1266637 - 02 Oct, 2020 - 12:31PM
Nail on head Devon pixie , we all know what we mean , sometimes gets lost in translation here , but that’s another hornets nest here 🤣. Iv kicked it a few times
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1399985 - 02 Oct, 2020 - 11:05AM
I agree with ExoticOrchid I'm not sure it's even compartmentalisation, it's just a way of keeping secrets safely. If I met someone through my normal day to day life, at work, a friend of a friend etc they would know people I know, nomatter how discreet you think you are, if you and the person you are having an affair with have mutual friends eventually someone is going to guess and that is a massive risk, the more people who know or even suspect, the more chance there is you will be caught. When you meet someone on IE, and you meet up just the two of you and never meet each other's friends there is less risk.
Perhaps the issue here is the focus on the words "real life" maybe it makes more sense to say IE is safer than meeting someone in day-to-day life.
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1352755 - 02 Oct, 2020 - 11:03AM
@sportster1200L
Blimey..... I had to look those words up 🤣😂
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1117169 - 02 Oct, 2020 - 07:07AM
@discerningfitfun
I don't think its cognitive dissonance but contextualisation and compartmentalisation.
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