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phillyd - 08 Nov, 2020 - 04:15PM

Ermaya

It is what this site is for!

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1269284 - 08 Nov, 2020 - 04:06PM

Is this a forum where men concisely nd unilaterally encourage each other to have an affair ? Lol

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Curvy4u - 08 Nov, 2020 - 03:29PM

I’d you’re questioning yourself id say it isn’t the right thing

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JayKay120 - 08 Nov, 2020 - 02:27PM

I think you have to have a certain mentality for having an affair. Being able to rationalise it and compartmentalise the affair so that it doesn't mess with your "real life" is key.

I think that's why it's so hard to find someone to have an affair with. Both have to be in the same head space. Making snap decisions isn't the way and chatting about it may help. Good luck.Jaykay2982

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1389672 - 08 Nov, 2020 - 01:16PM

When I was thinking of having an affair I spoke to a good friend, who I knew had already had several.

He said two things to me that stuck in my mind and in retrospect made sense and were true facts.

1: The women he had affairs with were remarkably like his wife or mother

2: He said ‘Once you step over the line it means you no longer care’

I know we all have different circumstances but I separated soon after.

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Summerbelle - 08 Nov, 2020 - 01:12PM

The only way of knowing if there's any attraction is to meet in real life. Of course that's more difficult at the moment, but even going for a walk will give you an idea to look into someone's eyes and find out whether that chemistry is there or not. Chatting online never gives you anything more than words on a screen which are so easy to build up into something it's not.

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RumplesBear - 08 Nov, 2020 - 12:57PM

It's been said but whenever you feel it's possible, a good old date. Coffee, wine, an autumnal outdoor meet in a park. Before lockdown a German Market would have been fab.

Online is fine, but you need to see if that spark is there in the real world. That should give you a sense of wherever it is right for you.

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musexkanter - 08 Nov, 2020 - 12:47PM

It could be better if you wrote your age and gender. I never see online encounters replaces a live date that leads to a decision. Online apps are good to set a date from them, not to encounter a real affair. If you are so young that you're going to your first date, watch youtube tutorials about how to find a direction in live dates. Hey if u're in Glasgow you can opt in to have me as your tutor :D

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Looking4thespark - 08 Nov, 2020 - 12:20PM

The human being is so awkward.
In all cases there will be regrets.
Going on a date while not being fully ok with it
Or not going at all and still not being fully ok with it.
Being regretful under any scenario if you did/didn't do is the worst feeling ever and having an affair will definitely get all these feelings going in a high tempo!

1320953 - 08 Nov, 2020 - 10:22AM

When it's allowed, have an old fashioned date. Se what the chemistry is like in person... If nothing else you might make a good friend and if its meant to be you have found a very special friend

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