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Curvy Patrizia - 19 Jan, 2024 - 11:24PM

My IE guys have messaged every day at all times and I reciprocate, so as to build a rapport and connection.

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1529050 - 08 Jan, 2024 - 04:07PM

Paula99 - 06 Jan, 2024 - 06:42AM

wise words!

Paula99 - 06 Jan, 2024 - 06:42AM

Instant communication isn’t always present …think about it we can’t communicate with our OHs ..sometimes the banter/chat is brilliant on here but when you meet there is nothing there….some are better at it when there is ‘common ground’ and others can talk to the ‘butchers dog ‘…comms is an art form and sadly most people cannot have a ‘normal ‘ conversation..

The best way to communicate is to meet meet meet and only then will you really understand how it works…there is nothing like looking someone in the eye and you will find the conversation will/will not flow accordingly..

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whisperingwillow - 05 Jan, 2024 - 09:53PM

Think there is no hard and fast rule, you do eventually find a common pace of communication when the foundation of the relationship is set, takes time though. Also, more than frequency it’s how interesting and engaging are the topics which eventually does encourage the other person to feel more to be involved.

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Paula99 - 04 Jan, 2024 - 03:38PM

HS…

If you message her a lot less than you specified… it also means that you are not in this for the duration and I like a guy that makes an effort ..😉

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marklondonengland - 04 Jan, 2024 - 11:55AM

This post is headlined "communication" ... why not start by communicating with your IE? First thing to check is which channel is safe, which times are safe, and then you can ask if he/she prefers you to remain fairly quiet or is happy to chat... This shouldn't even be a question in a debate as it is different for every couple!

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1639646 - 04 Jan, 2024 - 10:39AM

Whatever works for the two of you.

You'll find a natural rhythm between each other. Stop overthinking and relax into it.

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1620310 - 04 Jan, 2024 - 10:28AM

24 ….7!

or

Build up the tension between chats…..

Depends …. I prefer the latter….. sometimes!

LadyDe - 04 Jan, 2024 - 10:02AM

This is tricky I try to be lead by them.. some find it easier in the day but then they’re trying to work… some in the evenings but equally other half’s might wonder why on phone all night …
Yep just ask them what works but you’ll get into a flow as you know them anyway…
Personally I like it, it builds anticipation, intrigue and want !

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Lucky7s - 04 Jan, 2024 - 09:40AM

If it was me, I would discuss this with her and get a plan together of good times to message and times to completely avoid. From experience, messages at certain times could be a complete no go and ruin things before it even gets started. Good luck 🤞🏼