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Perfect001 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:50PM

Thank you Pisces82....

At least there are some normal people on here that realise, sometimes something just happens....

You can't control it, it just happens....

If other people are lucky enough to ever experience it..... then I'm sure they would understand.

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Lucky One 0001 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:32PM

Weid one, very recent, met at a Costa coffee found you couldn't go in so had to sit in the car....
She was there before me so once she saw me arrive she came over to the car.....she got in and i very early on realised she was not going to be the one.
Dilemma.... she's in my car..... I can't just make an excuse and leave..... no, one and a half hrs later she tells me she's really enjoyed the meet and goes...... maybe I should just be a little rude and say no sorry not for me but you never like to hurt someone's feelings, do you.....🙈🙉

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1358651 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:32PM

Absolutely right ‘Perfect001’!
No one should judge anyone as no one could b in anyone’s shoes! I have experienced both ways. Sex was never a part of our date meet. But we connected mentally so quickly that sex on the first meet didn’t seem wrong at all! Instead he wants to see me every week not in a hotel but for other way like long drive etc. Clean and neat date with no sex. So he is just not after sex but me overall.
Now I feel that I wasted my 5 months after a guy who played well being nice In couple of meets before lockdown and then hurted my feelings by sudden ignoring behaviour. Although there was no personal fault of my own! And here he is, explaining his other hot date as an erotic experience!!
God actually saved me!!😀
I now have a much better IE with no frustration behaviour!!

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1358651 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:26PM

There is no set rule. Ideally I would never go for sex on the first date. I had complete 2 different experiences on here!
First IE, pretended to be quite gentleman & not too touchy, well behaved on the first meet who actually celebrated my birthday! God! What people do to impress a girl and then 5 months of lockdown experience faded the attraction and he pretended to be too frustrated from his wife. So damn him!
Lucky enough, found another IE soon after, who instantly clicked with me through chats and was planned to see him outdoors with no intention to sex. But we had so much chemistry going on, atleast he has no pretend issues. Due to sudden overcrowded place,change of plan to work from hotel and ended up being intimate! But that was an amazing experience and will cherish for life! I would b totally against sex on the first meet and cannot believe I would ever do that but I m not regretting it 1 minute. It’s better than a cheater meeting u 1st time acting gentle and suddenly ignore u for no reason.

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Perfect001 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:01PM

I'm I being accused of 'put out ' on a first date..

I did it once and it was amazing....

Have never met another man who made me feel safe and want to do that again, and believe me, I've met a few...

Do not judge me, you weren't there and do not know the build up to the meet.

As I said I was with him for 2 yrs after that and enjoyed every single time I was with him....

So get a life and stop judging people until you know the full story....

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 03:56PM

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OrientalAngel80 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 03:25PM
"what would they have expected if I asked for cake 🤔"

Haha yes, absolutely!
Note to Self: don't ask for cake with coffee!!! :-))

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 03:53PM

Jade2020 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 03:24PM
" if someone wants to ‘put out’ on a first date then that’s their choice."

Indeed it is ... however, it is a different matter when the men "expect" you to do so because that's what they are used to!

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 02:57PM
"Now I can understand why some men expect the women to "put out" on a first meet!"

Some of the guys I've had coffee with expect assistance in their cars... They'll say it happens. I tell them it may happen ehsewhere but it's not happening with me!

If that's what they expect paying for a coffee, what would they have expected if I asked for cake 🤔

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1374756 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 03:24PM

Folks we’re all adults on here... surely if someone wants to ‘put out’ on a first date then that’s their choice.., if not then that’s also their own choice... don’t think anyone on this site can judge lol

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 02:57PM

Now I can understand why some men expect the women to "put out" on a first meet!

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