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Delicious Chaos - 28 Dec, 2024 - 05:55PM

Everyone fits into a box. Those that are happy with their lot, those that aren’t and take the steps to do something about it, and see others or those that change their circumstances and actually leave their partner.

So there’s no yes or no answer to this.

I’m just hoping 2025 will bring me a decent human being to embark on a new journey without all the drama and bs which many on here have.

I can always dream I guess…

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fitstrong54 - 28 Dec, 2024 - 02:52PM

I think it’s very much an individual thing, myself I like my cake and wanna eat it.. if your unfulfilled or there’s a mismatch with your partner I don’t think it’s fair to accept it and not be yourself and enjoy yourself due to a partner suppressing your needs.. go get it.. enjoy it and try your best not to hurt everyone..

Clickable Connection - 28 Dec, 2024 - 10:54AM

For me it's less about monogamy and more about finding that someone to fill a gap in my life.

I've had a few affairs, and once they've ended , I think - " ok I've got that out of my system, no more". But guess what , I always come back, might take a few years , I keep coming back.

So I've accepted, either I'm wired differently or there's something I need that I'm not ever going to get in marriage. Either way it doesn't matter - this does add something positive to my life - so here I am .......

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Foxy656 - 28 Dec, 2024 - 08:16AM

Hundred percent agree with you

1651227 - 26 Feb, 2024 - 07:17AM

Different strokes for different folks, I think. But certainly, for me, monogamy is unnatural af

Like you, I tried and tried. Nothing worked, and now I've finally given up I feel *so* much better. A new world had opened up, bring it on.

Dudes, Google ENM. If you're in a healthy relationship and want more, it could be the way to go.

1650790 - 25 Feb, 2024 - 11:34PM

It is for me. I’ve had affairs fairly consistently throughout my marriage. I used to beat myself up for it but now I think I’m just wired differently.

Life is a beach - 17 Feb, 2024 - 10:44PM

Most of us are here because there is something missing in our relationship, therefore, monogamy is not the rule.
We are all allowed to be happy, therefore in my opinion there is nothing wrong with having that person who can complete you.
I only joined this site last year with curiosity, not sure what I was doing 😅, only to find someone who is my only other. Does that count as monogamy? Probably not 😂

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on and on - 13 Feb, 2024 - 06:36AM

Being brutal, it’s a numbers game.

The odds of finding “the one” are astronomical
So it’s a case of either compromise, or keep trying new partners.

But we are also endorphin junkies, and affairs set them racing 😈

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Amandi1712 - 11 Feb, 2024 - 10:34PM

We all want to be seen as attractive and to be attracted to others. Unfortunately marriage creates complacency, bitterness and limiting. If you get the right person to have an affair with then both can work hand in hand. I have been in and out of extra marital relationships. They all ended on good terms for various reasons. Each one is different, but each one is exciting, provides light everyday and most importantly gives you your self worth back. Just to give emotional and physically to someone new is just wonderful.

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Heathcliffe007 - 11 Feb, 2024 - 04:46PM

I agree I,ve been married 45 years and always there is that need for spicey interaction outside the marriage,discression is the key,and separate sex and passion from falling in love 🌹

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