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MagicMouse321 - 07 May, 2025 - 08:51PM

Much like GDPR …any information which, directly or indirectly, could identify me: Surname, address, phone number are the classics I don’t share.

Other than that anything goes. I’m really happy to share everything else.

(Just don’t want someone turning up on my door step, or sending cards etc)

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marklondonengland - 07 May, 2025 - 06:28PM

@EmnEm123
You are exactly right - it would concern me a lot more if someone insisted on talking on the phone, rather than switching to an app... should we use a rotary dial as well?

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EmnEm123 - 07 May, 2025 - 05:50PM

New-Lover

I wouldn't share all of my personal details with anyone from here either. However, I don't see the problem with moving to an app, it's easier than here and you don't have to exchange telephone numbers.

New-Lover - 07 May, 2025 - 02:55PM

I have never given my full details to anyone from this site. I give generalised details. If pushed, I am honest and explain I am in no rush and want to get to know a man in time not all in one hit and if they suggest moving to a chat app I instantly feel uncomfortable. I would much prefer to talk on the phone when ready x

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Dave 2025 - 07 May, 2025 - 12:41PM

In my limited experience of being on this site I would say we are all wanting discretion in this virtual room, hopefully leading to face to face meeting.
I've probably been too open with some , and have worried about the consequences.
So my trust in some of the people on the site is now a cautious one . I don't venture off the site when encouraged to do so , I now only share non specific details in the event someone wanted to take my identity. It's a shame in some ways as you want to be open and honest to build trust and that bond.
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boav91 - 27 Apr, 2025 - 07:58AM

So when you first meet someone it is probably unwise to share everything. You do need to give away some honest details if you are not a player as let’s be fair, if you say you are a fit 30 year old and turn out to be 60 with a beer belly it is not going to help the sustainability of the relationship.

As the relationship with you grows, then trust will grow too. I think there are broadly two groups of relationships on here, those that last a short time and are not more than filling a sexual need and once done people move on , the second type is where a second relationship develops. In the latter you develop feelings and trust and there it will not be real if you keep things hidden. In the former type you don’t really need to say too much as that is not what you are there for. In those have a nice meet, have sex and move on.

I had the former type once and it was fun, but I now have the second and it is amazing, there is total trust and disclosure and that makes it special.

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Clickable Connection - 23 Apr, 2025 - 09:04AM

As purple dreamer said I think this is between two people and the amount of trust between them - also depends what sort of relationship it is.

For me , I generally try not to give too much away that can personally identify me. It's not about power but being cautious, as you never know how a relationship is going to go and how they may react.

Also I think to begin with it's ok for both parties to withhold stuff , create aliases etc - I value discretion above all.

Infact id go as far as saying it's a red flag if a woman disclosed too much info about herself & perhaps indicating she might not be as discreet as I'd like

Horses for courses I guess

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Purple dreamer - 20 Apr, 2025 - 08:42AM

Think its a question between the two people and if you plan on it being a long term thing

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Delicious Chaos - 20 Apr, 2025 - 08:12AM

I love the way most men have had a stalker! Tbh I think a lot of men just don’t want to give anything away, as a power thing and pull the stalker card!

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Enigma.. - 20 Apr, 2025 - 07:01AM

@Naughty in NW

Basically a fanny north of the border is an Idiot with little or no common sense etc…
So he likes fanny people 🤔🤷🏼‍♀️ 🤣
Kind of says it all really 🙄🤣.
Just another eejit…
No further comment 😉😏.