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Marlen - 06 May, 2024 - 04:28PM

I'll let you know, if I ever find out.
There are all the usual platitudes, but I guess it's contingent on the reasons for the IE in the 1st place and what both parties bring to the table. It's as complicated and messy as marriage in some respects.
Not everyone wants a long lasting IE, anyway. For every person that wants a Tracey/Hepburn affair to the other extreme of find, fuck and forget, you have unlimited combinations in between.

Paula99 - 04 May, 2024 - 12:11PM

Exotic Orchid …

The perfect answer 👍

ExoticOrchid - 04 May, 2024 - 09:11AM

Friendship and genuinely *like* each other as people.

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Peaches1 - 03 May, 2024 - 11:11PM

Be honest, reliable and discreet. Cant say anything more as these are the main things. Get caught and its game over for both or your life.

Steelblueyes77 - 01 May, 2024 - 04:36PM

If you feel lonely and uncared for .. tell the other person.. Talk about your feelings not forgetting your dislikes. If you accept that no one is perfect and is not taking you for a ride, accept the relationship and be prepared to make it work. Physical attraction is a good start .. sometimes that decides how far and long the relationship lasts. It may be that you find fulfillment together as support to an existing relationship . It has been known that a couple can agree rules and extent their own relationship by agreement

Steelblueyes77 - 01 May, 2024 - 04:27PM

It is true that if you find someone who you are confident, comfortable and at ease with that is a good start. I is also very important to agree what is important to both of you. That is your priorities. Also there are times when you may have to Compromise First set up a set of rules and keep to them. You will soon find out if you are a good match but keep talking .. More importantly KEEP LISTENING 👍

Beckysharp - 23 Apr, 2024 - 05:42AM

There’s no secret- if you’re both enjoying it, it will last. If not- why bother!

ChocolateAubergine - 19 Apr, 2024 - 08:31PM

There are a lot of things that contribute but i think the strongest correlations to "long lasting" have probably been echoed by others in this thread.

Respect
Good communication
Protection
Trust

As others have pointed out, being mentally stable and sure of your needs is important, the temptation to keep looking is what often prevent potentially amazing experience from flourishing. Not all affairs start off with a bang! The longest affair i had was with a woman i was initially unsure about!

Sex is very easy to find, I think too many on this site now have spread themselves so thin that they can't commit to entertain anyone well enough. Sadly, nearly all of them end up being crap in bed and mentally unstimulating as they struggle to commit to the affair.

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Life is a beach - 19 Apr, 2024 - 03:42PM

In my experience, the secrets of a long-term affair:

Take care of each other, be careful so that you protect each other and each other's families.

Good communication both ways will go a long way.

From what I have read in some of your comments, some people keep looking even if they have found someone. Those people will never find a fulfilling long-term relationship.

In my opinion, if you find someone who is attractive, intelligent, fun to be with, then stop looking, develop that relationship with that special someone. Be exclusive

Only then, you have a chance of having a great, long lasting relationship.

I am lucky enough to have found someone great,. It is going strong. It has been a few months and it is well on its way of being long term.

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Dino100 - 19 Apr, 2024 - 11:47AM

Keep it secret !! Keep it fun, keep it exciting, keep it thrilling, keep it naughty, keep tge butterflies going and just because it's not your real life, respect each other and be kind xx

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