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Paula99 - 11 Jun, 2025 - 02:47PM

Reminds me of the the old phrase … ‘a woman in every port’…I too would question how many cities he ‘visits ‘ ..let’s face it he’s not helping your situation…he’s only thinking about himself ….

File him under B 😑

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EmnEm123 - 11 Jun, 2025 - 02:06PM

This is a very old thread however, that’s a question that really you shouldn’t have been asked.

It’s ok for him, he travels for work frequently, I would be questioning whether he’s just out for what works for him.

Life is a beach - 07 Jun, 2025 - 10:33PM

I was very green to this when I first joined. One thing I have learnt is to keep it close to the truth.
If you have never been away and suddenly you do, this will get your other half suspicious. Don't do it!!
As much as I would love to spend overnight with my IE, I can't because I haven't got an excuse..
Do always use an excuse that's close to the truth and adapt to whatever your situation is. Don't do anything out of the norm that would raise questions.

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boav91 - 05 Jun, 2025 - 11:34PM

The biggest issue is as a few people have said is you have to do this normally. I go away for work regularly but my IE does not. That means we have had to restrict ourselves to whole days together as the longest times we have been able safely and is consistent with what we both normally would do. During that time we have both fallen asleep, well what we are all here for can be tiring! We both would love an overnight but we also know there would not be a credible excuse yet for her so we don't as much as we both would like to. I love the idea of falling asleep and waking up with them, but not yet. Dont take risks that will harm you.

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mayoman - 05 Jun, 2025 - 07:06PM

Act in haste, repent at leisure is a very apt saying in your circumstance - acting out of the ordinary will possibly draw the sort of attention at home that you might not want.....

laugar164 - 05 Jun, 2025 - 06:14PM

Unless you normally stay over night with the girls I'd say no if you are doing something out of the norm will only raise questions This is how people get caught acting out of the norm

MagicMouse321 - 04 Jun, 2025 - 02:57PM

Bizarrely, having met through IE this allows you the affordance of being truthful.

You don’t need a list of excuses up your sleeve - tell him the truth.

"I won't be staying over because….it will trigger questioning from my OH.”
"I won't be staying over because….I haven’t done his before and i’m not comfortable.”

If you put the truth out there on the table you might be able to address them as a mature couple? …and come with ways to start to approach your issue. Eg. I won't stay over, but this time i’ll stay until 10, (then 11, then 12) etc

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InspiredBy - 04 Jun, 2025 - 02:37PM

Say no for now and try to 'run' the scenario without the actual overnight sleep. I curently have no affair, so when I go out with friends I tend to do what I would if it was with an IE. Not answering all calls, being secretive (even if I'm having a negroni by myself), missing the last train on purpose, saying 'I'll crash at a friend's flat because we drank too much'. So, when the time comes it all feels normal.

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marklondonengland - 04 Jun, 2025 - 01:44PM

Basically you have no excuse that can be used unless you are regularly away from home - business trips for example. If you are almost never away from home and suddenly start staying out all night "with friends" then you may as well start sounding a siren and flashing lights to announce your intentions...

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The Devil in Me! - 04 Jun, 2025 - 11:09AM

Unless you have a rock solid (no pun intended here!) alibi then don't do it. Back in 2006 when still married I had an affair and was lucky enough to be in lust and in love. We both took chances. We both missed the last train home. We both rocked back to the hotel. We both got found out. It didn't matter to me as I was long gone from the marriage, but it ended in disaster for him. Keep safe girl.

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