How much is too much?
Does anyone else find it drags you down when you are chatting to someone, it's going well, and then they commence to dump their emotional baggage onto you? Complaining about their life choices, their wife/husband, their problems at home, why their partner isn't giving them sex, their kids, their relatives? Particularly when you've not even met? Turn off?
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Pakman100 - 26 May, 2025 - 09:14AM
It’s too much when the weight of their world lands before the first coffee.
We’ve all got stories, but there’s a time and a place. If the first few chats turn into a therapy session about their partner, kids, or regrets, it kills the mood fast. Chemistry needs space to breathe. Lightness before layers.
Not saying depth isn’t welcome - it is. But lead with curiosity, not crisis.
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AdventurousLover2 - 24 May, 2025 - 08:34AM
Yes it’s huge turn off to be a sounding board for someone’s failings and plain rude too .One must be in good form wheh chafing to someone for the first time.
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Black Gent - 21 May, 2025 - 09:24AM
It can be a downer to be used a a cheap therapist. I suppose some men would use it as a dating strategy to appear to be very sympathetic but that is not my style. We are all accountable for our life choices.
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Caroline Red - 20 May, 2025 - 10:19PM
there's nothing more of a turn off than someone who complains about their partner and their life. i am not your counsellor or your therapist. having said that if anyone wants to role play that scenario using a leather couch i am up for that one..
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Bikerdude69 - 20 May, 2025 - 09:09PM
That's where unfortunately the conversation will end , we've all got so called baggage but we're all here for a bit of an escape
MrsManc85! - 20 May, 2025 - 05:39PM
I think it’s ok to cover it off but yeah bashing the other half and how hard done to they are makes me switch off a little.
Paula99 - 20 May, 2025 - 05:18PM
There aren’t many guys that can do twice never mind 6 times …only ever met one guy that could do more than 6 …genetics gotta be 😂😂
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Vespa007 - 20 May, 2025 - 12:45PM
I dont mind if it helps some times there is no where to get this stuff ones chest. Luckily I am separated and dont have those issues but I can relate to them and its difficult if one cant leave due to financial reasons or kids but want to talk
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