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Delicious Chaos - 29 Dec, 2023 - 03:21PM

CL77

I think the danger is what if that doesn’t happen then what?
I think it might be highly unlikely that you don’t find someone who was better than the last. Do you want to fall into that trap? If it was so great why did it finish.

I don’t want to have that mindset because I’m being honest, if I don’t find someone who was as good as the last, does it really matter? If the sex and company is good then why not. I think you need to look at each ie and see what they bring to the table.

I know what I want and did say I wouldn’t settle for less but I’m beginning to think I may need to budge a little. I really don’t want to turn into a dried up born again virgin

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ClassyLady77 - 29 Dec, 2023 - 02:05PM

I’ve learnt a lot during my time looking for an affair and during my 3 year affair. I’m finding atm my last affair set the bar high that I’m finding it hard to meet someone who’ll meet it.. The next one must be better than the last of what’s the point.. He made me feel sexy and brought out my kinky side even more..

Secret fun 100% agree..

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Secret_fun2020 - 29 Dec, 2023 - 10:17AM

In some ways it's easier and in some ways harder. Easier in the sense you know what you are doing and what you want. Harder because you are perhaps looking for something even better thsn you had before.

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Doricles - 29 Dec, 2023 - 09:27AM

IE’s become easier once you’ve crossed the rubicon and actually met someone for the first time. But it’s not something you should do without giving the risks associated with your infidelity lot thought beforehand. That first meet will either lead to an ongoing, mutually beneficial and rewarding relationship or give you the confidence to search out other like minded ppl to have secret liaisons with. And that’s when life gets more riskier because you’ll crave the company of the other person or persons and you become complacent; you may have reconciled your duplicitous lifestyle in your head but now you have to manage the relationship(s) you’re either in or you’re cultivating! And do so in a high tech world where your movements can be tracked 24/7 by tech savvy suspicious partners, or you’ll show out in other ways i.e. by changing your routine, appearance or style of clothes or, yes, appearing too happy! So to answer your question, “No, for IE members in long term relationships, it doesn’t ge

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Paula99 - 10 Jul, 2022 - 05:26PM

Compared to a few years ago...online dating is more difficult than it looks

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1470697 - 10 Oct, 2021 - 06:52PM

You learn about yourself ,you learn what you’re looking for in others ,your bs detector gets finely tuned and you find out that most people are as unimaginative and dull as cardboard.
However…sometimes you find more than you ever expected.

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laughingboy - 09 Oct, 2021 - 07:08PM

PS. I think it does get easier, and I personally have crystallised my random thoughts on what I'm looking for.

laughingboy - 09 Oct, 2021 - 07:06PM

Been on IE a while now, and also a couple of times in the past, and
have had two delicious affairs off here.
I can appreciate that it s difficult for women being inundated with messages.....must be more irritating than flattering!

Met a woman last year, just when I was on the point of giving up and shutting down my profile. I was looking for someone near to my own age, but she was 30 years my junior, which was a surprise, and very flattering. For about 9 months, we vigorously pursued our affair in spite of Covid. Getting hotel rooms was tricky, but lateral thinking got round it!
So.....patience people! Don't give up and keep looking. And don't be rude to those who are rude to you.....be more grown-up than them, and move swiftly on.



last year

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1466140 - 09 Oct, 2021 - 06:33PM

I nearly started a relationship with a woman that I met here. Her circumstances changed and unfortunately everything went pear shaped for her. That was disappointing. Patience is required to meet someone. What I struggle with is the lack of responses to mails. But you can understand what women go through on this site.

Welshdiamond - 09 Oct, 2021 - 02:00PM

Tbh, I had been with someone31yrs and divorced 4yrs,I now feel it’s time to get a myself a life. What do you put as an introduction . I never know wha to say .