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Ricky67999 - 04 Oct, 2023 - 12:18PM

P99 - not if published by Haynes, I‘ve already got one of those and it’s black and white, unintelligible and best used to put mugs of coffee on !!

Anyone for a spreadsheet ? 😂

Paula99 - 04 Oct, 2023 - 12:08PM

Ricky67999…

You will be asking for a manual next 😂😂😂😂

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1408586 - 04 Oct, 2023 - 12:03PM

It’s not helpful for women sadly. As loads of men are online but not gold. Just perving! Why/what they’re perving I’ve no idea !

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Ricky67999 - 04 Oct, 2023 - 11:56AM

FluffyClouds - yes i get that, although you’ve just burst my bubble 😢 😀. !!!! That’s where seeing how recently someone has been signed in is helpful, and if you can connect with someone who is online in that instant even better ?

It is rather daunting though & easy to lose track of whose profiles you’ve read - any tips on that gratefully received !!

FluffyClouds - 04 Oct, 2023 - 11:15AM

Ricky67999 -

Mmm, but a lot of those 1000 matches won't have an account that's been used for a long time. If they've not been online within the last week, they're more than likely dormant or abandoned.

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1408586 - 04 Oct, 2023 - 10:42AM

For me Ricky67999 when I was looking I focused quite a bit on my own search/messaging guys I was interested in. I obviously still read messages I did get.

The trouble with messaging men is even if their profile is active that doesn’t mean they’re gold and can read/reply. So women can also get a lot of unanswered messages!!

With my current guy I apparently messaged him when he wasn’t gold. He replied months later when he did sign up. But by that stage I was back with my ex! We did both get there in the end fortunately 😅

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Ricky67999 - 04 Oct, 2023 - 10:13AM

Mister.E.Mann - I can see how you might be frustrated. I joined relatively recently and still finding my feet. It is not easy finding good matches. I did a matchfinder across a wide-ish age range, and within 90 minutes of where I work/live. It came back with over 1,000 matches !!! Needle in a haystack…

I wholeheartedly agree that a personalised profile is much more likely to attract (my) attention than the standard - and so I‘ve personalised mine more in the hope that it sparks the right level of interest. If i get to the end of a profile and I’m smiling so much because what’ she’s said is a virtual mirror image of me then she’s 100% caught my attention. I just think if I adopt a scatter gun approach I’m setting myself up for disappointment, and it’s not best use of time.

Question: Do ladies spend more time fending off time wasters than they do on their own search ?

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1598629 - 03 Oct, 2023 - 04:50PM

Ah bless you, that cliche be yourself probably won't help, but natural responses from each other, yes that word chemistry dies play a huge part here. For me it's a meeting of minds and bodies, someone who can be articulate and confident in their own skin. Remember there are no easy answers go what's in your heart and what you feel comfortable with there are I promise a few great ladies on the site, put in thevwork and the rewards will follow.

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1614937 - 02 Oct, 2023 - 09:19PM

FluffyClouds -

I get that. People will have red lines but, for example, I might state that I'm looking for someone between 5'6" and 5'10" and I'd be a fool to rule out a lovely woman who was 5'4½" or 6'0". Obviously, if a profile says that they are into museums, art, theatre, period dramas and folk music and I'm into motorbikes, DIY, basic camping, sci-fi shows and rock music, I'm not going to send them a message! 😄 That's the point of the personalised message, based on their profile. There is no excuse for using a "Stored response"... 😒 I wasn't suggesting (I hope) that he should send the same stock message to everyone in the area! 😲

I think we're probably arguing the same thing..! 😁 The difference is that your an attractive woman who knows what she wants and I'm... over 56! 🤣🤣🤣

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FluffyClouds - 02 Oct, 2023 - 07:20PM

Mister.E.Mann -

That's fine, but take it from someone who gets messages from men who are not within my age parameters nor match any of my criteria. It's annoying, because they've just not read my profile. Wasting both mine and their own time. 🤷

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