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1715305 - 28 Oct, 2024 - 12:14PM

@Ladyde

Don’t really need to know the ins and outs.

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1715305 - 28 Oct, 2024 - 11:55AM

@FromRoss

Nobody needs to know details. Tmi. Just saying.

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1704344 - 28 Oct, 2024 - 11:45AM

My wife has a condition that prevents intercourse and over the length of our relationship and marriage we’ve got used to having a loving, strong marriage but without the intimacy.

Aside from a brief affair last year I’ve not had nooky )and intimacy that goes with it) for over 12 years and I feel I rather miss it. I don’t want to break up or spoil the marriage I have, so I’d much prefer to do this in secret.

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AsianGent1986 - 28 Oct, 2024 - 10:50AM

Honestly excitement. The taboo/illicit element of sex outside of the marriage is very exciting but also the initial stages of a relationship/having the opportunity to romantically entangle with a woman you don’t see every day.

Everyday life with a woman (and I presume the same with a man, for a woman) is about responsibility and stuff getting done. Essentially the rigmarole of everyday life.
You love that person but I need excitement, even if it is through (pardon the pun) illicit encounters.

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Enigma.. - 28 Oct, 2024 - 08:48AM

I have messaged with several males over the past two years and there seems to be a reoccurring theme as to why some of the male members have joined the site….

1 Their wife is going through the menopause and is no longer interested in having sex.
2 Their wife has a lower sex drive than them.
3 Their wife is on medication that has suppressed her sex drive.
4 Their wife is no longer interested in sex.
5 They no longer fancy their wife or find her physically attractive for various reasons.
6 They both lead separate lives which usually includes separate bedrooms.

These are just some of the reasons why and I’m sure others will have different reasons than the above.

But then there are others who have joined for all the wrong reasons too.

I’m speaking from a female perspective and can only comment on what I have been told.

But I stand by what I said about some male’s joining for the wrong reasons 🫤.

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LadyDe - 27 Oct, 2024 - 10:40PM

Ok so for me and husband .. we met online, and we were in our mid 30s … best been promiscuous (dj) I’ve been a party girl .. role on 22yrs .. and one day we looked at each other and said “ I can’t imagine only ever having sex with you for the rest of my life, let’s set boundaries and have others” best thing we ever did, neither of us believe in monogamy but unless we had, had that open convo who would have known. That was 2yrs ago, it’s been great

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1701991 - 27 Oct, 2024 - 04:11PM

Woman resolve in wanting more sex than there men partner? this will lead them to go for sex elsewhere? Some men partners close their eyes to it, some like to join in and some just watch? Mature men are to like this as to what I know? I think? I get multiple requests off married ladies as that is my profile request?

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Paula99 - 27 Oct, 2024 - 10:49AM

It’s strange to hear that people get ‘bored’ with their partners and lifestyle but they are reluctant to give it up for fear of ‘starting again’ or financial ruin …so then we have the ‘let’s take second best ‘ choice ..
If we didn’t have a good lifestyle to start then we would get bored and ‘unrest ‘ would still kick in…

So what does that tell us ?

Whatever reason…cheating doesn’t warrant a gender…it’s the baggage at home that chooses it !

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1715305 - 27 Oct, 2024 - 10:25AM

People will justify themselves however they want.

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boav91 - 27 Oct, 2024 - 10:04AM

My own take on this is it is often complex and nuanced and whilst we can generalise, the reasons are complex. In my own case I never wanted to be here. I would have wanted to find everything within my marriage which for the main is pretty good.

It was the frustration due to the lack of close intimacy that was missing and whilst I get that is a common theme, what falls behind that is often complex from interest, to physical desire changing to the fact that we all have different levels of need men and women alike. If the other person does not want to have sex and is indifferent to that, despite trying to keep it fresh, you have to respect that. Could it be hidden and the desire is just not with me any more, possibly but hence my point complex reasons when in other ways we still get on very well.

I think for those of us who desire intimacy and connection, man or woman, the failure to get it at home is what drives us to look elsewhere.

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