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SirrahNek - 05 Nov, 2024 - 02:58PM

From my perspective, I'd rather not cheat… but menopause sometimes takes control of the situation. My wife, the person I most want to be with in the whole world, no longer has any libido. I do though - even just to be thought attractive. As for the cheating part, she doesn't want me to be with anyone else (so yes, it is still illicit) - but equally, hasn't been interested in sex for ten years.

What's a man to do?

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Oldgroovy - 04 Nov, 2024 - 02:50PM

There are many reasons but the main one is wanting to tell someone about your feelings without the worry that they may reveal those feelings to your friends, especially if the feelings are sexual.

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Paula99 - 02 Nov, 2024 - 08:04AM

CPFOOOO…

Some fantasies are best left in the mind….as they rarely come up to reality …what happens after that?

Do you return to the original status or does it evoke other emotions?

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CPF0000 - 01 Nov, 2024 - 07:23PM

Because they want to exercise fantasies in part, with the one they are looking for........and maybe a GF or BF in the traditional sense save in a discreet way.........who enlightes their life and happiness.

Which does not exist at home .

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Peter0211 - 01 Nov, 2024 - 11:50AM

At an individual level, I think we all have different and personal reasons, so it’s hard to generalise. But I do think the desire to ‘cheat’, or at least a curiosity to do so, is widespread across both men and women.

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Unwoke! - 31 Oct, 2024 - 12:17PM

Lots of reasons and all chime to various degrees but one stumped me. What are 'the wrong reasons'?
Me personally? The lack of intimacy. And it's not just physical intimacy I miss; it's the cerebral side too.

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1718708 - 30 Oct, 2024 - 03:13PM

Attention the need to feel sexy

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laugar164 - 29 Oct, 2024 - 10:13AM

Paula
I promise I won't make any comments about the uniform if we meet 😜

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Paula99 - 28 Oct, 2024 - 12:53PM

It’s not easy to admit the problem in a marriage or partnership but it does do the world of good to talk about it …from what I have read here in the past does shape your future…it’s ok to say TMI or is it ?… no one really understands until you have been in that situation…it’s nice that some men don’t think their wives health is Taboo..

Being a nurse nothing shocks me ….👍

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MagicMouse321 - 28 Oct, 2024 - 12:49PM

I think the reason why is the same for both men and women: an unmet need or desire for an active sexual relationship.

The difference between the genders comes when looking at how they go about it.

Men blame their partners (in their heads) and say nothing, behaving thoughtlessly and recklessly.

Women I would argue are more likely to at least talk about it, maybe open up their relationship or even be honest about wanting to see another man.

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